I board my horse with 20+ others with an older woman who's health is so bad that other boarders feed all the horses 2x a day for nothing. The owner/trainer is very generous and helps everyone with any problems , she is a very good person. However, most of her boarders are kids and the adults are all "needy" for her advice. I do ask her advice as well. I'm honest with myself on the things I need help with.
There's been a few occurances that have really gotten to me. Once I ride this girl's horse just a few minutes in the ring at a walk and the trainer comes jumping over the fence and saying I'm making the horse mad and she's ready to run off with me. What I felt is that the horse started out pi$$y and was getting more and more relaxed. I've ridden for 30 years and know what a horse feels like if they are getting upset, or relaxing more.
The 2nd occurance was that I popped on my girlfriend's horse for my girlfriend to just see if she could spot what wasn't working for her. Not to teach . Just to give gf an opportunity to watch her horse. She came over and said that I was not riding the horse correctly and I didn't warm him up the right way. My gf had just rode him for a 1/2 hour. She had warmed him up.
Yesterday was the last one. This trainer has two 18 month old colts that have never been trained to behave. She wanted them moved to another paddock. One woman there has her arm in a sling. One woman has 2 broken ribs and a hernia. One young girl, one woman who doesn't feel qualified to help. She says I"m too inexperienced to help. She says if one gets away from me, he will run thru electric fence and jump on a mare.
I just have this feeling that since I am not "needy", she doesn't want me to look competent because she didn't train me. And it's one thing for her to feel I'm not competent, and another to say it in front of others.
Is there any way to approach this? Or should I just ignore it? Yes, these things do bother me a lot. I've not said anything because she's older and in poor health. Maybe I'm an easy mark because I don't argue about it. Maybe she doesn't want it to look like I'm competent and she's not made me that way. I'd like it to stop, but don't know how to reply when these things happen. Advice?
There's been a few occurances that have really gotten to me. Once I ride this girl's horse just a few minutes in the ring at a walk and the trainer comes jumping over the fence and saying I'm making the horse mad and she's ready to run off with me. What I felt is that the horse started out pi$$y and was getting more and more relaxed. I've ridden for 30 years and know what a horse feels like if they are getting upset, or relaxing more.
The 2nd occurance was that I popped on my girlfriend's horse for my girlfriend to just see if she could spot what wasn't working for her. Not to teach . Just to give gf an opportunity to watch her horse. She came over and said that I was not riding the horse correctly and I didn't warm him up the right way. My gf had just rode him for a 1/2 hour. She had warmed him up.
Yesterday was the last one. This trainer has two 18 month old colts that have never been trained to behave. She wanted them moved to another paddock. One woman there has her arm in a sling. One woman has 2 broken ribs and a hernia. One young girl, one woman who doesn't feel qualified to help. She says I"m too inexperienced to help. She says if one gets away from me, he will run thru electric fence and jump on a mare.
I just have this feeling that since I am not "needy", she doesn't want me to look competent because she didn't train me. And it's one thing for her to feel I'm not competent, and another to say it in front of others.
Is there any way to approach this? Or should I just ignore it? Yes, these things do bother me a lot. I've not said anything because she's older and in poor health. Maybe I'm an easy mark because I don't argue about it. Maybe she doesn't want it to look like I'm competent and she's not made me that way. I'd like it to stop, but don't know how to reply when these things happen. Advice?