Originally Posted by Sally Sunshine
I am depressed because I know exactly how my day is going to play out. I was up all night with a dog digging and digging wanting in and outside no pups, I have a ton of kids early dismissal and I told parents I would watch them, she will wait until all these children which I might add are boys are inside my home to begin her whelp. which should be a quiet non stressful peaceful place, which believe it or not is what I like. I hate noise and people... I like quiet!!! Now I love kids, but I love kids best when I can have them outside. but I cant have them out side now can I when I have to be inside can I can I can I? see where I am going with this? see how women just have to think ahead and already create issues that are not there yet? but they will be there because we always KNOW these things?
Ok, I'm about to get very busy at work, so I don't have time to wait for permission
You may reply while I'm typing this, but too late
Most people will say "Awe hon", or be supportive because they don't want to say anything that offends. Luckily I don't have that gene
You start your morning by saying "I'm depressed".
Narcissist rule number 1: Be happy. Even if it inconveniences others, you owe it to yourself and your husband to be happy. If you are already depressed because of something you volunteered to do, don't volunteer. Now you are dreading it, your husband has a depressed wife, and you will resent the parents of the kids because you are going to have a very stressful day.
Rule #2: Get over the silly stuff that doesn't last. It's one day. You have already convinced yourself of "how my day is going to play out". You're setting yourself up for failure. You volunteered, it's done, don't make it any harder on yourself than it already is by being in a depressed mood before it even starts. Believe me, I know about Thanksgiving depression... It will be over soon. No need in getting yourself all worked up over something that is fleeting. People suck, the Holidays suck, and that's just how it is. Take my motto to heart: Flock 'em
And while I'm at it, let me go ahead and alienate half of the thread:
" see how women just have to think ahead and already create issues that are not there yet? but they will be there because we always KNOW these things?"
Exactly, and you all realize it, but you still do it. Dreading something that hasn't even happened yet. I'm speaking as a husband here, it drives me insane. It's life, stuff happens, and a lot of it sucks, but it passes. Why build some small event into this huge thing that ruins your day, I'm guessing ruins your husbands day, and you will be mad at yourself tomorrow for being this way? Don't think ahead, take it as it comes. It may not be that bad. I will say that is a big difference between men and women, at least in my case. Women like to prepare for the worst so they can be pleasantly surprised if it doesn't turn out so bad. Men would rather be happy, not needlessly dread something that may not be so bad, then just complain and raise hell about it for a few hours if it does turn out bad. Then it's over.
I'm not saying one is right or wrong. Women are too emotional, men aren't emotional enough. There has to be a happy medium in there somewhere, but the extremes either direction are unhealthy for both of us, and cause problems where there shouldn't be problems.
Try looking at it a different way. You are getting to whelp, and the grandkids are coming over. What a glorious day
If it all heads south and starts falling apart, take a blue one, take a pink one, wash it down with a martini, and flock 'em
OK, off to work