Originally Posted by aart
Internet forums can be great for hermits.....communication, collaboration, community......but can be bad too.
I find that some regular face to face, as well as some change in scenery, is essential for overall well being.
But no other humans share my domicile, or maybe I'm not totally a true hermit.
Chat threads turn me off, too much seemingly obligatory interaction.
I could mostly agree.
When I do go out, I am that friendly person who will carry on a conversation with any one, from any walk of life, about any subject and enjoy it, then ponder for hours the different aspects of the interaction. I do enjoy some regular face to face with a few select people, but that can be very obligatory also. I have a hard time saying goodbye. I don't do facebook and it took a really long time to join byc. But there seemed to be a lot of really GOOD people here, who I am honored to receive advice (now I guess support) from.
Actually, part of it I contribute to 1 morning in April 2009, 10 am took dogs to the dog park. Upon returning, home was ransacked and burglarized for more than $10k worth of items. In the confusion of moving after such a violating incident, lost my dog leash and dog got ran over by a tow truck in front of me the same week, about 1 year after recovering from severe depression. Dog was part of said recovery. 1 month.later, went to say goodbye to "friends" at DP and there was a 6ish month old labra-bull abandoned inside the fence following me. That was 7 years ago and she is MY best dog ever! But I wasn't expecting my dog who never ran into the street before to be hit that day. Life is so fragile..... I guess fear controls me sometimes! My fight or flight senses are heightened beyond the norm. Plus my dog guilt trips me. We got a third dog, so 2 can stay home at all times, they take turns.
We don't live in that town, Bakersfield Ca anymore! But I think it still has a subconscious influence. I feel very clingy to my dogs and they happily reciprocate.
I really try to make an effort. Its is a struggle most days. Most people wanna leave home because that's where their stress is. My home is my sanctuary. Not as nice as some but perfect for me. No drama! I am more BLESSED than I ever thought possible!! So for my happy medium, I attend some extended family get togethers, catch a play or some other dinner/entertainment with my own family once a month or so, and going hiking in the redwoods also once a month or so. Plus I hit up local small businesses as often as possible which usually includes chatting with the owners.
I would be happy to join a hermit type thread, knowing I could respond only if and when I choose to. Maybe under a term that doesn't seem as alienating. Funny, I don't want to be alienated! More than that, I truly care and don't want to eliminate anyone else.
@oldhenlikesdogs Sorry for hogging up your thread! Thank you again for sharing. It's encouraging.