Just sitting here tonight doing a little reading and trying to allow my mind to relax. It's still thinking about all that was been done and still needs to be done with regard to Hope's stepfather. While you can logical explain why you have done everything as you have, it is still a little hard to total convince yourself. The right decision doesn't always leave you feeling good.
Opa, I have been working with folks in healthcare settings for 35 years. Everywhere from a sanatorium for older folks to a drug and alcohol rehab for all ages. I have seen really good care from Michigan to Hawaii. The vast majority of folks who work in the healthcare field just love caring for others. The pay is o.k. but the family feeling that develops in those long term care settings is very precious and the workers and patients/clients become like family. I know you can find exceptions but honestly in all those years I have seen only a handful of cases where the staff made a mistake in providing care. I know there are exceptions.........but I have loved my work, loved the clients and developed great respect for the industry of health care/longterm care/ mental health care. I know you did the right thing to keep your father in law safe. He will develop loving relationships in his new setting and his life will be more meaningful now that he is in a community of people and not isolated. It just takes a little adjustment time to see it.