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Originally Posted by Opa 

Just sitting here tonight doing a little reading and trying to allow my mind to relax.  It's still thinking about all that was been done and still needs to be done with regard to Hope's stepfather.  While you can logical explain why you have done everything as you have, it is still a little hard to total convince yourself.  The right decision doesn't always leave you feeling good. 
 

Opa, I have been working with folks in healthcare settings for 35 years. Everywhere from a sanatorium for older folks to a drug and alcohol rehab for all ages.  I have seen really good care from Michigan to Hawaii. The vast majority of folks who work in the healthcare field just love caring for others. The pay is o.k. but the family feeling that develops in those long term care settings is very precious and the workers and patients/clients become like family.  I know you can find exceptions but honestly in all those years I have seen only a handful of cases where the staff made a mistake in providing care.  I know there are exceptions.........but I have loved my work, loved the clients and developed great respect for the industry of health care/longterm care/ mental health care.  I know you did the right thing to keep your father in law safe.  He will develop loving relationships in his new setting and his life will be more meaningful now that he is in a community of people and not isolated.   It just takes a little adjustment time to see it. 

Chicken grandma, seems sort funny me calling you that with you being such a young thing but I digress.  Thank you for you consoling post.  I know that we have made the right decision.  I'm sure there has been a sense of isolation since his driving privileges were revoked.  Perhaps being is a community setting will allow a portion of him to return.
 

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Originally Posted by Juise 

Frig, well, someone else said they were hoeing. XP

 

LOL!  I did say I had worked in the garden.  Might be what you were thinking.  I don't hoe though.  Used to, found it largely overrated.  

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Originally Posted by Opa 

  Perhaps being is a community setting will allow a portion of him to return.
 

Definitely, those places are designed to maximize the client's potential.  M.Sue was saying just the other day how blessed she is by a lady she cares for who is 99yrs and in an inpatient setting. Now, I know there are exceptions but I have really enjoyed my years in some of those settings, even the ones that are for the most impaired people and I have seen much laughter, many hugs, a few tears and lots of worthwhile living going on.  Life doesn't stop when you change locations!  And as long as there are people around you (or your father in law), life will be lived!

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Originally Posted by chicken grandma 

  Life doesn't stop when you change locations!  And as long as there are people around you (or your father in law), life will be lived!

For my client's daughter, an only child, this decision was not easy for her to make. It weighed heavily on her mind for several months before she actually decided to move her mom. It was the best for her, her family and her mother. She now has daily interaction with people instead of her occasional  trips on various days to do errands, church, the salon, etc....It has made her more livelier than she already was! Plus it gives her daughter & herself the reassurance that she is never totally alone, and is properly cared for. We as children do the best we can when caring for our aging parents and there is nothing wrong with getting some help with that care for it can become very overwhelming at times.

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Originally Posted by M.sue 

For my client's daughter, an only child, this decision was not easy for her to make. It weighed heavily on her mind for several months before she actually decided to move her mom. It was the best for her, her family and her mother. She now has daily interaction with people instead of her occasional  trips on various days to do errands, church, the salon, etc....It has made her more livelier than she already was! Plus it gives her daughter & herself the reassurance that she is never totally alone, and is properly cared for. We as children do the best we can when caring for our aging parents and there is nothing wrong with getting some help with that care for it can become very overwhelming at times.

It is a very tough decision to make. Some people like my Mom can be very stubborn about leaving their homes. Even if it might be in their best interest. 

Since my Dad died, I've been taking care of my Mom's house as best I can but I'm not there as much as I should be. It is overwhelming and I could use some help from time to time, but help just ain't there.

I've tried to talk her into selling both of our houses and buying something that we both can share but she won't have it.  She is a stubborn old broad. She told me this, "I didn't move when your Father retired. I didn't move when he died; I be darned if I'll move now".  She is a PITA for sure, but you do have to appreciate the stubborn streak.

Social interaction is more important to a healthy life than most of us realize.  When my father passed and I brought Granny here to live with us her various afflictions kept her basically home bound.  Once her health issues were properly diagnosed and treated she was no longer in physical pain yet the loss of my father had taken much from her.  Once I was able to get her to start attending a local church and she met and started doing things with some of the other widows,  she started returning to her former self.

Even cyber interaction can be beneficial.  I'm sure that the banter on this thread often helps people see their day in a better light.
 

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!! In an hour!

Well... Almost got the coop all painted! Had my son helping. He did a pretty good job! Except he painted a part that I wanted to be white RED!! Ooopppss. Oh well...

We were almost done when it started raining. Covered it up with a tarp... it will be interesting to see what it looks like tomorrow. I knew it would rain as soon as we started painting.

In the summer, after I water my flowers or garden... it rains. EVERYTIME. So if you would like it to rain in Oakland Co just let me know and I will go water my gardens!

@ HD they have livestock safe paint... barn red, white, and grey. Just incase you might be looking. Mine was out of white so I bought exterior paint... It will have plenty of time to air out before the babies get to go in! Should I be worried?

I am going to stick tiles to the floor of the coop so it will bw easier to clean... maybe up the wall a little.

When should put in nesting boxes?

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Originally Posted by Stacykins 

 

If your son liked Howl's Moving Castle...

Thanks for the suggestions! I do try to watch a movie before he does or at least be sitting there while it is on for the first time. Toy Story 3 was the one that gave him bad nightmares! They almost get melted/ burned at the end...

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Originally Posted by 1muttsfan 

Grandma, your daughter is so pretty.

Agreed! And skinny too!!

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Originally Posted by M.sue 

My DD gave me an early Mother's Day gift......she surprised me with a beautiful pot planted with bright & cheery flowers that she & her father planted together and placed it in one of my old crocks.

 

So I'd like to share it with the women on here....moms, step moms, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, who ever has played a positive/important roll in someone's life  and 

 

WISH YOU ALL A HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TOMORROW!!

 

So sweet! So pretty! Thank you!

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Originally Posted by Opa 

 

Uggos, bulldogs, I can see why some of you might find having ugly thing appealing, but I have no need of them.  My house has mirrors. 
 

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Originally Posted by M.sue 

The light in their eyes is priceless when the kids think of things & do them on their own....It just melts my heart!

Yes it is and yes it does!

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Originally Posted by Opa 
Even cyber interaction can be beneficial.  I'm sure that the banter on this thread often helps people see their day in a better light.

I respectfully disagree.

Since Sky-net took over Big Brother, all of our cyber interactions are monitored.  And that better light is the spot-light of the "Man" come to take me down for chicken-groping and snarking with the ladies on this forum.

On the up side, that bright light irradiated the eggs and they hatched into Uggos.

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Originally Posted by BackyardFarmMom 

In the summer, after I water my flowers or garden... it rains. EVERYTIME. So if you would like it to rain in Oakland Co just let me know and I will go water my gardens!

For me, all it takes is pulling out the lawn mower.  It took my son this whole past week to finally get it all mowed because every time he went out it started raining within minutes.  He finished the last section today, but now thanks to all the rain he needs to go back and start all over again! 

CG- your daughter and beau make a very nice looking couple. 

Msue- love the flowers your daughter potted for you.  I always love it when my daughter does that, too. 

Stacykins- love the aracaunas.  Oh, and I totally know what you mean about those raccoons.  Talk about a shock when we put that one in.

On that note, kids and movies are tricky.  I wouldn't let my kids watch anything that wasn't age appropriate.  It annoyed my youngest a lot that her siblings were able to watch a movie and she couldn't.  I kept to it, though.  Just wish my ex-husband had done the same thing...Snakes on a Plane anyone?    Nothing like having your kids complain about not getting to watch a particular movie when they already have ones like that movie under their belt.  I can only be grateful that that is no longer anything I have to worry about.