And yes, some are crazy. One of the main reasons we go show by show. It's up to her what she wants to compete in. I just drive the trailer :-)
There are some really fun Chester County shows (assuming you are Chester County). Radnor Hunt, London Grove (i.e. Vince Dugan's), the big one at Ludwig's Corner. Just get out and meet the other riders and parents. Really fun group of folks. Some are a tad too caught up in the whole winning aspect. The key is to have fun - and keep telling yourself that when it costs a bloody fortune, it's hot as hades, and horses are being well horses!
My niece used to show at the rated shows locally at "Our Farm" and in NY and FL. Just a little too competitive for my daughter. The more people spend, the more they "want" to win.