my life is gone to hell in handbasket

thank u. i believe what u say. there is always some thing that causes the initial pain. i tell my students that all the time. i teach at a residential school for emotionally disturbed teens, mainly placed by the courts.

i believe my daughter's is her father and his ex. he has said some very harsh things to her over the years. for instance.. telling her she caused the divorce (hello fool it was the girlfriends you had) and the other real hatefull one.. he never wanted her , he wanted mommy to have an abortion (true but hateful). he has also strongly favored our older daughter. his ex stalked my girls after the courts said she could not be at supervised visitation. the police did nothing, and the judge gave them our new address.
every where i turned for help let us down. the girls lawyer and mine were the only outside help i had. my dh and my family were very supportive but i can only imagine what else there might have been that i dont know. it scares me to imagine what there might be that she has not shared. how can i get it out when she refuses to share it?

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it is true it is the new"IN" label like add and adhd in the 90's. i am sure about the depression but question the mania.

Wow, thats alot to handle...I wish I had the answer for you but I dont. all i can say is take things day by day, get you daughter the help she needs, sounds like she has low/no self esteem...which I can understand, if someone tells a kid they are at fault for everything that goes wrong and they are worthless and unwanted thats going to effect them and they'll actually believe it.

I have a friend who is like that to his daughter, actually not even his daughter, his wife adopted the girl from a family member so it's not even his kid, he hates his wife, wants a divorce but he is just nasty to this little girl. he'll be like "gracie, shut up ,get the F...away from me..." or "gracie you are so f'n stupid ...go away" Sad thing is, he's not a bad guy, he doesnt act like that except for when he is home around his wife and kid.

I refuse to go to his house anymore because of the way he talks to this girl, i'm good friends with his brother and I mentioned it to him and he said "trust me, i know" I've had it out with him numerous times over that, CPS has been there a few times and nobody wants to be around him when his wife and kid are around"

I feel bad for the girl, she my daughters age 6 and she doesnt deserve the way shes treated and shes going to have major issues when she gets older. On the bright side he did tell me that he and his wife are getting a divorce... the daughter wont be around him much longer. It's rough because the guy is my friend but at the same time I cant deal with the way he treats the girl.

So sorry for the rant but I can see how that can have and effect on a kid...wishing you the best of luck, just take it day by day

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it is true it is the new"IN" label like add and adhd in the 90's. i am sure about the depression but question the mania.

My first shrink was at Mather. For 4 years he would not even budge, then I moved. If your DD has never had a manic episode, there is a big difference in the meds. If you are treated for mania, and don't have it, the AD's don't seem to work very well. That's my experience. Good Luck