Not in the Christmas spirit?

Avalon1984

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Hm…I was just accused of not being in the Christmas spirit. Apparently it is not good to not bring home made food to a pot luck. Well, I am the worlds worst cook and quite honestly, after putting in my 14hr workday between the job and the farm, the least bit on my mind is to cater to some spoiled rotten unappreciative co-workers and cook something up at 9pm. So I bought a couple bags of potato chips and dip to go with it. I won’t even be at the potluck because I am running home and checking on the horses and incubator.
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That drive takes up most of my lunch- every single day. But I thought I’d bring something anyways out of the goodness of my heart. Appearantly that wasn’t good enough.

So, I must warn y’all, I am not in the Christmas Spirit, so I have been told.
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I'm not...but then between losing my Dad in April and my best friend's wife in June...this isn't going to be a classic Merry Christmas. Usually I'm the one among my friends who buys all the fun/funny gifts....this year I went out with a bunch of them, and was surprised to realize...I've bought nothing...and they all had cute little gifts for me.
 
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You know, it is interesting you brought this up. I don’t know what is with this year, but I swear every single person I have talked to had a major tragedy happen this year and they are trying to get back on their feet. We lost 2 of our beloved barn cats this year, one of my pet raccoons and then to top it off my only 3 year old brood mare on Thanksgiving to a freak colic. It has been one of those years that I can’t wait to end and start from scratch. Recently, a lot of people around here have lost fathers, mothers and even kids. It is just terrible.
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For the past eighteen years it's been very hard for me to find the Christmas spirit. My Mom died December 29th, 1993. We buried her New Years Day, 1994.

Some years I'm able to put on a happy face at Christmastime; most times I can't. I learned a long time ago to stop apologizing to others for my lack of spirit. As long as I am not dragging anyone down with me, I have the right to feel anyway I choose.

New Years Day forget it. Haven't celebrated it since 1993.

So don't worry about apologizing. No one has walked a mile in your shoes, so to speak and no one has the right to make you feel something that's just not in your heart.
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Oh Grit, you remind me a lot about hubby. His dad passed before Christmas as well and it was very sad. He is slowly coming around but he just detests the idea of Christmas being a family thing- because of his dysfunctional family. He has now found a new family in me and my parents, who have adopted him like their son, as well as the animals. So we just make Christmas our own thing- and that doesn’t include staying up late and cooking to fit some crazy picture of how a holiday party at the office is supposed to look like. I keep hearing all those people talk about how much they spent for Christmas and I am just
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. Maybe you can make Christmas something else that is special for you. Have hubby take you around in the police cruiser (just joking...I think) or do something else special. Who cares of how Christmas is supposed to look like and whether or not you have a tree. It is what you make of it for yourself.
 
I'll be glad when the whole holiday season is over. I'm calling 2011 the "Year of Betrayal". Glad to see it go.
 
After reading all this on BYC this year, little by little, it gave me some insights that folks dont care for Christmas or the jollies that goes with it. So is it really that bad if people dont want to celebrate nor feel like celebrating? No, as long they are not complaining and they are perfectly content with that idea, I'm good too! I just don't like the fact what will happen afterwards, the hatred, the bitterness, "why didn't I get gifts or fun?" type of attitude.

A big hug to each of you that have lost family members. It has to be hard.
 
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My husband always says that the holidays brings people together who really don't want to have a dern thing to do with each other.
 

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