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My mother is having morphine and is unconscious and we have been told she is dying now.  There is no hope and no more time.  The hospital is trying to fast track her to a hospice so she doesn't die in hospital but they don't think they have the time.  It is so serious they have said come and visit at any time hospital visiting hours no longer apply.

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Oh, that is so sad!  I am so sorry!  I've been through this exact same thing with my ex-mother in law.  She had liver cancer, with no chance of recovering.  She was on morphine and went unconscious.  (Into a coma.) 

 

My sister is a registered nurse.  Here is some advice for you, and this is very delicate.....hugs.gif

 

When my MIL was in the same state as you, my sister the RN advised the family to take her off the IV fluids.  She would still get the morphine, and would feel no pain.  The IV fluids may keep your mother going for quite some time, which doesn't help her at all, and really causes alot of stress to you and your family, watching her linger with no hope of recovery.  I talked with the family and the doctor, and he agreed that it was very insightful and a good thing to do to end her suffering, and the suffering of the family as well. 

 

It is not a cold thing to do, it is a caring thing to do......Take care and I am thinking of you and your mother!

 

Sharon

Proud owner of some nice show quality Buckeyes and Silver Penciled Plymouth Rocks.  I love gardening and being outdoors.  I'm lucky to have a great family, and two cute dogs.  I live out in the country on six wooded acres and it's just paradise!  (Except the mortgage payment and bills, of course)

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Proud owner of some nice show quality Buckeyes and Silver Penciled Plymouth Rocks.  I love gardening and being outdoors.  I'm lucky to have a great family, and two cute dogs.  I live out in the country on six wooded acres and it's just paradise!  (Except the mortgage payment and bills, of course)

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I'm so sorry Paula.  I'm thinking of you. 

Count the campfires by glowing flames, never by the ashes that fall. Count your days by the golden hours, don't remember clouds at all. Count the nights by stars, not by shadows. Count your life by smiles, not by tears. And with joy on every birthday, count your age by friends-not years.
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Count the campfires by glowing flames, never by the ashes that fall. Count your days by the golden hours, don't remember clouds at all. Count the nights by stars, not by shadows. Count your life by smiles, not by tears. And with joy on every birthday, count your age by friends-not years.
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post #7 of 38

I'm so sorry.  My heart goes out to you and your Mother.

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I'm so sorry, Paula.  Thinking of you and your family.

 

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Alison

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It is one of the hardest things we ever have to do. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Mother of 4, teacher of 2,  Raise chickens, ducks, geese, goats and YAY I finally have my dairy cow. I am addicted to finances and getting great deals. I enjoy sharing this with others, especially family. I actually enjoy doing taxes and have taught others to do their own.  I craft a little, sew a little, and read alot.  One upon a time people thought there was a chance I would be meek, quiet,...

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Mother of 4, teacher of 2,  Raise chickens, ducks, geese, goats and YAY I finally have my dairy cow. I am addicted to finances and getting great deals. I enjoy sharing this with others, especially family. I actually enjoy doing taxes and have taught others to do their own.  I craft a little, sew a little, and read alot.  One upon a time people thought there was a chance I would be meek, quiet,...

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I am so sorry. I hope being there for her brings you comfort. hugs.gif God bless you.

  Try to live your life like you are worth the price Jesus paid.

Bantams: Blue, Black Wyandottes~ Black Cochin~D'uccles~Br Leghorns~Barred Rocks Large Fowl: White Leghorns~Polish
"You need chickens. It's in your blood."  my incredibly understanding and indulgent husband!

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  Try to live your life like you are worth the price Jesus paid.

Bantams: Blue, Black Wyandottes~ Black Cochin~D'uccles~Br Leghorns~Barred Rocks Large Fowl: White Leghorns~Polish
"You need chickens. It's in your blood."  my incredibly understanding and indulgent husband!

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