So sorry, Debi, but that is exactly it. I was once that kid. They do pull away b/c it is too hard to face. When I was 17 and my dad was dying of Lung Cancer what did I do? Support my poor mom? And him? Noooo, I ran away from home- 3 times! The Police caught me after a few days and brought me back each time. I ran away b/c I could not face what was happening. I loved my dad. It is just so hard to lose your dad at that age. I drank myself into oblivion immediately following his funeral, and never went through the proper grieving process. It was wrong and it still haunts me today, I often have dreams about my dad, and what I would have said to him if I'd had the chance. Just to tell him I loved him. :( I hope your kids don't end up with the same regrets. Maybe it would help them to read my post.
That is what I am afraid of - that they will regret it. He has one daughter that has been treating me badly too. I want them to spend as much with Ken as possible for THEM, not so much for Ken. He and I are actually ok being alone together. He is just disappointed because he thinks he doesn't mean that much to them. Which is not true.