I thought it wouldn't hurt to update this old post for future reference
And the answer issssss....
A BOY!
He is Tom Turkey after all! After a good few months of some serious strutting and a long snood that was quite 'manly' a beard has popped out from the centre of his chest! I don't think there is much doubt left that he is a HE!
As for the other 2 turkeys I had, one died shortly after I purchased it. It never looked great.... annoying thing is, I'd say it was a girl! The other one has developed into a nice young male (he looks to be a white turkey X with a sweetgrass or something similar!). So that now means I have 2 male turkeys! I have organised a nice girlfriend for Tom, but I need a new turkey pen before I bring her home 