Originally Posted by ChickensAreSweet
I have an 11 year old boy.
Here you go:
"Morning chores": bed made, teeth brushed (USE TOOTHPASTE AND WATER), dressed (PUT ON CLEAN UNDERWEAR), breakfast eaten and ready for the day
"Nighttime chores": computer off, teeth brushed (SEE ABOVE), homework done, dishes off table
If he doesn't do the chores, early bedtime because he "must be tired." Normal bedtime 9 pm on school nights, 10 pm on weekends.
Set up the rules at the beginning. Never fail to follow through on the punishment if he doesn't follow the rules. Last resort: 25 pushups.
NO TV, games, or music that you don't approve of. It is YOUR home.
Ask him to cook some. Give him a cookbook and tell him to go wild...buy the ingredients and supervise of course.
You have a good opportunity for him to do chores like house cleaning, weeding, painting, etc. and he will earn a little money from you for it if you give payment.
Keep him so busy that he falls into the bed at night.
Happy is busy for 11 year olds.
Oh and homework after dinner, so he can unwind from school.
One more thing: I let him do his own thing on weekends. He loves the freedom of not having to make his bed, etc. on weekends.
Great stuff!!! I added a few things as 11 year olds seem to do things their own way ....
You also left out the shower every day ..... check the tub to make sure he is turning on the water as boys HATE to be clean
When you bust him after finding a dry tub, you must then check his washcloth as he will sit on the toilet and just let the shower run
When you bust him with a dry washcloth, the next step will be to smell his arms and make sure you smell soap
since he will then wash only his arms after being busted that way, you can try his back ,,, check his ears ,,,,(I am having flashbacks! )
How do I know this you ask? We took in an 11 year old orphan boy almost 4 years ago and this is what we went through
OH! And I used to be an 11 year old boy
The good news is when they become teenagers, it's hard to keep them OUT of the shower
BTW ... he is still with us and we are blessed beyond measure