Miscarriage or not? - Page 8

Is there another school you can teach? That principal sounds like a hard ***!

IMO what you really need now is to take the pressure off. Would it be financially possible for you to leave work for a while perhaps. Then you can concentrate on yourself and your recovery. I think you have enough physical and emotional issues to work through without the added burden of an extremely stressful job and unsympathetic colleagues. I have worked many years in schools in England and nobody, but nobody, who hasn't been there, can understand how physically tiring and mentally draining it is to stand up in front of a class every day! I have seen good teachers broken by the sheer slog of continually having to control unacceptable behaviour, and I believe in the US it is worse. For your health sake and your sanity, and also for the well being of your family and relationship, if it is in any way possible, resign. You may face being absolutely broke, but you will ultimately be better off for it and so will your nearest and dearest! 

AMEN to that one!  A good teacher gone bad (sick in mind, body and soul) would be NO help or benefit for her students. A good LONG summer vacation would do the body wonders. Even to a year if your husband can support you for the time being.
 

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Originally Posted by newfoundland 

IMO what you really need now is to take the pressure off. Would it be financially possible for you to leave work for a while perhaps. Then you can concentrate on yourself and your recovery. I think you have enough physical and emotional issues to work through without the added burden of an extremely stressful job and unsympathetic colleagues. I have worked many years in schools in England and nobody, but nobody, who hasn't been there, can understand how physically tiring and mentally draining it is to stand up in front of a class every day! I have seen good teachers broken by the sheer slog of continually having to control unacceptable behaviour, and I believe in the US it is worse. For your health sake and your sanity, and also for the well being of your family and relationship, if it is in any way possible, resign. You may face being absolutely broke, but you will ultimately be better off for it and so will your nearest and dearest! 

FMLA. really 12 weeks I needed some of it

Go talk to hubby and find out what you can do for your SSI for you and daughter...you are going to need it.

 Make a plan.  A List. Man I love lists. It will help you organize what you need and what you want to do

1) You NEED a break

2) You Want to get married eventually

3) You have a way to bring in some money until you do get married

4) You are already facing unemployment with this school system and I still think have recourse with the comments made by the principal. She is an HR persons worst nightmare it seems.

So I think you should plan to take a break. Give yourself time to recover, to get your mental state back on track. You can always plan to get married. Get engaged and plan for something in a year or so. By then you will be feeling better and can go back to work. In the meantime you would be collecting SSI which will keep you afloat. Things will just keep getting worse if you stay so stressed, sick, and exhausted that you cannot heal. I am positive your DBF will agree, since he was already pushing for you to take a break.

HeatherLynn is absolutely right, and I think a big part of you knows you desperately need a break. Trying to carry on long after you should have taken time off, not wanting to let people down, feeling that your responsibility to the job is more important than anything - been there, done that! Trust me nothing is more important to those that love you than your health and well being. Get off this treadmill, it is dragging you down. Good luck to you.