Originally Posted by thaiturkey
Do you have other employees? If so, you must consider them
. They have had to cover the work of this new employee who takes time off without notice or permission. How do they feel about that? What do they think about you as a boss who puts up with this?
Originally Posted by justbugged
There is something about paying the rent, and eating that should make a job a priority.
Both ThaiTurkey and JustBugged have made good points. I'd like to add that by allowing this goober to get away with it you're setting yourself up. Your other employees will begin to think, "Well, that guy got away with it, and I wouldn't mind a day off so..." I would have put his lazy butt out on the sidewalk the first time if for no other reason than to send a clear message.
And now, another quote from The Notebooks of OldGuy43: "Do not put trust in anyone who does not take seriously that which puts food on his table and a roof over his head!"
If you don't mind I'll offer one more pearl gleaned from 69 years of living; "Never tell anyone more than they absolutely need to know!" Had you just done what you knew to be necessary and not told your wife you would have been much better off. Firing someone is never easy, I know. Been there, done that. Telling someone else does not make it easier, and trying to explain yourself just makes it worse. The person you tell will either (a) instinctively know why you did what you did and accept it, or (b) never fully understand why you did what you did.
Hope this helps. Try not to beat yourself up. You did what you had to.