The Old Folks Home

Thanks for all the advice. I think I'll go out now and do all the animal chores that need doing, and then have him rake the leaves and stack wood later this afternoon. I'll clean the coops/pens out too and have him add the stuff to the compost pile and turn it. That should be good for a few hours of work.

BF didn't really shanghai me with this, so it's not his fault. When we were inspecting the kids room (it's BF's house) the kids guardian sprung it on the kid (and us) that he'd have to work to get his room repaired and back and that he was going to help out on my farm because there are a lot of (some unpleasant) chores that need doing. That's not really the best time to relay my fears to the guardian about him being around my animals. The kid already spends Sunday afternoons and nights with another family member, trying to give a different perspective and a break for the guardian. Now, I work pretty hard and can get all the chores done (most of the time) that should be done, and always the ones that need to be done. I really don't need "help" and certainly not help that I assume I'll have to really watch and be involved in. I'll give it a try though. I manage adults (some could argue that noun) during the week and it takes a lot out of me and I guess I'm just really apprehensive about taking on a kid, too.

And the chores generally need to be done at a certain time of day so we can't delay until BF gets home from work. The kid and his sister both have social workers that come to the house to do one on one with them so we have to work around that.

I work next weekend, too, so BF will have to be alone with the kid next weekend. Paybacks.

I guess it's a moot point, my charge no showed today. Not answering their phones, either.

It's a good thing I didn't wait to have my chores done for me.

My youngest is back to watching cooking shows again--he was watching Julia child cook then the show with Chris Kimble . . then he used the PC to look up the apple fritters recipe . My diet is in jeopardy!!

He is clearly a carb addict at 8 years old!! Good thing I control the food in the house to limit the carbs and add a salad!! He can eat anything he wants generally without asking, but when he asks, I tell him 2 pancakes are enough until you eat a salad!

One day the boys asked if they eat a salad , how much computer time do they earn?? Well 15 minutes seemed fair per salad. Oldest ate 5 salads that day.

As with everything else in life, anticipation is sometimes the worst part. Hope everything is okay tho. Let us all know how the saga turns out. At least all of your animals are in one piece this week, and folks gave you some really good suggestions for (hopefully not) next time...

SCG-- hope that is the end of the "help" with the birds.


Regarding Food--

My youngest is back to watching cooking shows again--he was watching Julia child cook then the show with Chris Kimble . . then he used the PC to look up the apple fritters recipe . My diet is in jeopardy!!

He is clearly a carb addict at 8 years old!! Good thing I control the food in the house to limit the carbs and add a salad!! He can eat anything he wants generally without asking, but when he asks, I tell him 2 pancakes are enough until you eat a salad!

One day the boys asked if they eat a salad , how much computer time do they earn?? Well 15 minutes seemed fair per salad. Oldest ate 5 salads that day.

ducklucky said:

As with everything else in life, anticipation is sometimes the worst part. Hope everything is okay tho. Let us all know how the saga turns out. At least all of your animals are in one piece this week, and folks gave you some really good suggestions for (hopefully not) next time...

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Well the saga continues in that the guardian called BF last night and said oh we forgot there was a soccer game, I'll just bring him over tomorrow morning. I put my foot down on that, she can bring him when BF gets home from work (330ish) because I don't play that game. My life doesn't revolve around you. We had it planned out for Saturday noonish, and you didn't bother to show, call, or pick up your phone. I realize your life is busy, but I waited around all day yesterday for you. (You should see how clean my house is now, though!).

I guess I'm being a bit harsh but it seems like lately no one will nail down plans. Anyone else notice that? It's almost like, yeah I'll go out with you... unless something better comes along or I don't feel like it when the day comes or... I'd like to think I'm worth more than that. I take pride in that if I say I'm going to do something, I do it. I expect that out of others, too. I realize things come up occasionally, but be responsible, people!

I have noticed that superchemicalgirl. Plain rude is what I call it but this self-centredness is getting more widespread. I swear people never used to let each other down as they seem to nowadays. My nephew and fiancee have had to email guests to see if they will be attending the wedding even though they have had posted invitation for weeks. They can't even be bothered to pick up a phone or send an email to say they are/not able to come.

I am soo trying to keep my mouth shut . . . You are being KIND to try to set up another opportunity for this youngster. Glad you got a clean house out of it!

You should see all the work my boys are doing and it's not meant as a punishment, though they can collect baling strings at 1 cent each!! THat motivates them!!

superchemicalgirl said:

I guess I'm being a bit harsh but it seems like lately no one will nail down plans. Anyone else notice that? It's almost like, yeah I'll go out with you... unless something better comes along or I don't feel like it when the day comes or... I'd like to think I'm worth more than that. I take pride in that if I say I'm going to do something, I do it. I expect that out of others, too. I realize things come up occasionally, but be responsible, people!

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This is exacly why I am not communicating with my brother right now. Yeah I know he is family, but you know what? After years of playing the game I got fed up with it. When he decided to change plans at the last minute after months of planning, I decided that was it. This was a couple of months ago and the other day he reached out to "bury the hatchet". Told him I don't think I am quite ready yet and had to think about it. He said he had just as many reasons to be upset over what happened but he was willing to overlook them. I can tell he is the one that is still not there yet.

Well coming over at 3:30 when BF gets home turned into them pulling in my driveway at around 2. I had just got my cookies out of the oven, got the bread started on the first rise and was settling down to peel and chop some apples for a crisp and some applesauce to can. (I will neither confirm nor deny my carb problem). Had to stop everything and help. They brought the girl too, who is mentally retarded (mildly at least), so I spent 90 minutes trying to devise something that would keep the kids occupied. I did get my firewood stacked, but mostly by the guardian.

The last of the applesauce is about to come out of the canner, and I'm bushed.

All I have to say is thank goodness I'm working next weekend. I have this funny feeling that I won't get out on time, I may have to stay for some OT.