Mourning loss of rooster *accidently* killed by my husband - Page 4  

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Originally Posted by Scifisarah 

 

I needed somewhere to discuss my feelings so this seemed the best outlet since I am more or less anonymous here. I can't exactly have the support of my 2 and 4 year old children since I don't really want them to be aware of what happened. I simply left the incident as "Daddy did something to hurt my feelings." and that is all they need to know.

Up to you, but if hubby saw this thread he would recognise himself.

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Originally Posted by leadwolf1 

I've had many more nasty silkie roos then I have ever had nasty cochins.  Silkies don't see as well so their blows don't land as often.  However, out of all the silkie roos that I have raised, I only have one that is nice.  Out of the cochins, there is only one that has his moments.  The rest?  Are total sweethearts.

 

Good luck in what you decide. 

 

I lost sleep over this thread last night.  Not that your husband falls into this catagory but, everyone is saying that it is okay if he is really remorseful.  Remorse is the standard with abusers.  They are very remorseful after the act and will cry and plead that it will never happen again.  But it does, over and over.  With steel toed boats on, what was that little rooster goind to accomplish?  Even if he attacked him, the boots were more than enough protection.  Sorry.  Now it was my turn to need to vent.  I've been there. 

I think you are taking this too far! Let the lady settle her issue with her husband and leave the abuser stuff to the experts. He's not an abuser. He accidentally killed a chicken.

If you kick anything hard enough to kill it there is an issue and purpose behind it not an accident it takes a lot of power to do that. But if your fine with it then who are we to bug you about it but just remmber you posted first if you didnt want comments you shoudnt have posted. Maybe you should only keep sweet hens that way your husband will hopefully not have an exscuse to kill anything else.

Your husband did it accidentally.  I mean, it's an accident, he didn't "do something to hurt your feelings." 

This thread is so ridiculous.  Now we are talking about abusers and remorse.  We are talking about an old rooster, not domestic violence.  Making a mountain out of a mole hill.   

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Originally Posted by Spookwriter 

I sorta like my wife more that I have ever liked any chicken.

And I kinda hope you really feel the same way about your

husband.

 

If you've put up with a rooster attacking you for five years,

that's your choice. Don't know as I would do that.

 

(On the other hand...My wife and I were into for some reason

or another. I had just bought one of those VW Rabbits. Put it

her name, I did. And because she was mad at me, she sold "her"

car for $50.00.  Yes, I was mad about it. But I've still got her.)

 

Spook...Love requires a lot of forgiving.

 

 

On both sides.

that sounds like a story here in UK
 

hubbie brought a Lotus Elan £25000 yes £25000

he put it in wifes name and said it was for her but actually it was for him and to keep wife from moaning he put on her name

he spent years buying parts and tweeking it

he was a BBC Radio DJ if i recall correct which his wife never listened to and he knew that

one day Jodie Marsh was on air being interviewed and he knew wife wont be listening

so he started chatting her up and flirting

funny thing is that day his wife decided to listen (she did not know jodie was on)

she heard him say stuff and one was he would leave his wife if she gave him a go (obviously he was joking around)

his wife obviously kicked him out

and what she did next made the headlines all over the UK

she sold his Lotus on Ebay for 50p buy it now

he eventually got her back saying he dont care for the lotus but for her and was sorrry and loved her etc etc

so forgivness is a 2 way thing

Forgive him i have a Roo his name is chiko and he belongs to my wife

if a did anything not that i would as the chicken are my hobbie my misses wouldnt say anything as accidents happen

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Originally Posted by thaiturkey 

 

I think you are taking this too far! Let the lady settle her issue with her husband and leave the abuser stuff to the experts. He's not an abuser. He accidentally killed a chicken.

Excuse me.  I believe that I didn't put her husband into this catagory.  However, I have been in the same situation and things didn't get better, they got worse.  Much, much worse.  My comment was more about the use of the word 'remorse' as being the end all.

I originally stated to the OP that forgiveness was the way to go.  She knows her husband better than anyone here.  If I offended the OP, I am sorry...that was never my intent.

I've had many a nasty rooster come after me and get the boot. I never do it to intentionally hurt an animal, but to protect myself. I could very easily see how a kick could cause death by accident, even if it is not a hard kick. Nasty animals don't last long at my house though. I've had some attacks so bad they left my legs bruised and bleeding. Roosters like that end up in the soup pot sooner or later.

I wouldn't blame him too much. He seems sorry and the rooster had been attacking him. It's not like he kicked the rooster for fun. However, maybe you should talk about some options for any future nasty roosters, to avoid something like this happening again.

I've had people leave my chicken coop open which resulted in many, many dead birds. I've had birds left out. I had to put down my horse due to an accident while someone else was on her. In every situation, I realized it was just an accident. The people involved were very, very remorseful and I've always been able to forgive, even though I may have been upset at the time.

Good luck! I hope some of your eggs hatch.

Remember the lines from the prayer. Something to teach your little ones:

'and help us all,

that as we live,

we always comfort and forgive.'  Sound advice.

Closed at the request of the OP.