Daughter broke up with boyfriend and I'm the one depressed! - Page 25
I am learning that this problem I am having is not all just about losing my future daughter in law. I only have one child, although I wanted more but couldn't get pregnant again. I have 3 brothers and no sisters. I never knew what it was like to have a daughter and do the special things girls do together. I was perfectly happy before she came into my life because I guess you don't miss something you never had.
My son just can't understand this and thinks the answer is just keep busy, don't contact her, and stop talking about it to everyone. But the problem is deeper than just that and I am truly in a depressed and anxious state. I have never felt like this in my life and am glad I started therapy. I feel such a great loss and hopelessness. I can't eat, sleep or concentrate on much. I just saw a package that came for her yesterday that had been on the table is gone and immediately got a panic attack. I assume my son took it when he went to work but what does that mean? I am afraid to ask him because he wants me to butt out.
I am a definite control freak and that is another reason I am having a problem because I want to control it and I can't.
Long story short I have to keep reminding myself that I have to start taking care of me first because as Connie has said they will move on. I stayed home from work today and am trying to just relax. I had to call my niece twice for talk support which regardless of what my son says helps me.
I don't know about everyone else but a really good cry also makes me feel better.
You're right about a very good cry. I do find it helps. My daughter is pretty upset but I see she is doing healthy things for herself and making plans to keep herself busy. I am going to follow her example. I agree with you that kid's move far to fast and that has lead to some disasters in the past. I took encouragement from another "chicken" who said his son and daughter and now with even better partners.