Wedding Shower Rant!!!

I will never understand wedding showers. Housewarming/first home I get, you need more stuff for your house. Baby showers I get, ya need baby stuff. Wedding shows though I dont get. Now a days it means someone is finally doing what they should have done a long time ago but cause nothing really is changing they don't need more stuff. Its just a request for prizes for finally doing the right thing. But even back in the day a wedding meant two people were moving in to 1 house an had more stuff than space so they threw out stuff, they did not need more stuff.

rebelcowboysnb said:

I will never understand wedding showers. Housewarming/first home I get, you need more stuff for your house. Baby showers I get, ya need baby stuff. Wedding shows though I dont get. Now a days it means someone is finally doing what they should have done a long time ago but cause nothing really is changing they don't need more stuff. Its just a request for prizes for finally doing the right thing. But even back in the day a wedding meant two people were moving in to 1 house an had more stuff than space so they threw out stuff, they did not need more stuff.

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I politely disagree with this part. "Back in the day" that I remember, frequently at least one of the couple was moving out of their parents' home, and they probably didn't even have 2 sets of matching silverware.

I was always under the impression that a wedding shower was the same as a bridal shower.... and so you gave "lingerie" to help with her undergarments for her honeymoon...

Why did no one in the church offer to throw her a local shower? I guess if she no longer lives locally I can see it, but anyone raised in our church gets a shower thrown by the church.

Our church has always been supportive of our young people. We throw Senior graduation parties and take up donations amongst ourselves to give cash to young people about to go to college or enter the world of adults. The past couple of years, we have gathered about $500 per high school graduate, $20, $5 or whatever anybody feels like contributing. We give showers for couples getting married or having a baby. We give "poundings" for first homes. Poundings are food items, 4 pound bag of sugar, 5 pound bag of flour.......you get the picture.

I don't know why there is no shower here at home, probably because the girl lives in another town, but it is only 1 1/2 hour away, which in Texas, that ain't much. After all, her parents are driving up there loaded with loot to go to the party. My issue is that nobody from church is invited, but their presents sure are. A young couple that used to live here was given a baby shower and they drove 4 hours to get here. So we support young people even if they have moved away. And yes, this couple has been back and came to church to show off the baby.

We have a very active group of ladies who would be delighted to "shower" this young couple with gifts, so I can only surmise that they didn't want to come home, but elected to have their shower elsewhere, but still wanted gifts from home. Tacky. Tacky. Tacky.

I just had to rant about this. Instead of sounding off at church, and possibly causing hard feelings, I came here. I knew ya'll would let me complain about this lack of manners.

Maybe by posting this, there will be some discussions at other churches, other families and might even prevent this selfish grab for goodies from some one else.

I don't understand this at all. Where i come from guests invited to a wedding give wedding presents, originally on the wedding day, but more commonly now through large stores which have wedding gift services. The couple leave a list of desirable gifts and the purchasers contact the store and pick an item off the list to buy. Increasingly, couples who have lived together before the wedding, and already have a fully equipped home ask for holiday vouchers to put towards the honeymoon. Many frown upon this considering it to be tastelessly materialistically and frankly greedy. More decent couples will ask for guests to make a donation to the bride and groom's favourite charity in honour of the occasion. My nephew and his partner, who were recently married, but already had a complete home, nominated a military charity and the local children's hospice. Surely it is a wonderful thing to think that your special day has also helped others!