Yes, that's my dilemma exactly. I will see what they come up with as an alternative before I decide. Maybe he can go to her place and get inspected by the parents.
Going to the service is more to support the widow. Her husband was diagnosed with a terrible disease (amyloidosis) and died from it all in a few months. They are our backyard neighbor that we share the well with.
you think new parents wont stress him more ? shoot take em both with you. then Ice cream after.