Rachel - good to hear that your Honey's co-worker's situation isn't as bad as it seemed yesterday. You can't just "switch off" the caring part of you, but you have enough to deal with, you don't need to be fretting about someone that can't be bothered to take care of himself. It's a sad situation, but it sounds like it is more or less covered.
Blooie, somehow I am reminded of a comic (was it George Burns? Bob Hope? I can't remember) who said he started every day by reading the newspaper in bed. If he didn't find his name in the obituaries, he went ahead and got up . . . .