Originally Posted by Little lake Phi
Sally my walls talk back....sigh.....
I don't know the secret to parenting because I was my kids friend (or at least tried to be). It worked for us (I think I barely ever even spanked my kids).
I don't think there is really any one way that's right or wrong.
I think in the end it's all wether your kids respect you or not.
I was not a very strict parent either. Years later I asked my middle child why they never got into trouble. I seriously never had to go to a parent teacher conference or got a call from the school. Only had one bad report card to deal with(from the middle child). When I asked him he just said.....we were afraid to get in trouble...I think that had to do with losing my respect or something cuz I never even spanked them.
And I grew up knowing what a belt was..... Phil
so do mine, they say wipe me down paint me, hang something new one me, brighten me, knock me down! It drives me insane! they dont stop!
I agree, no right or wrong, well there are rights and wrongs obviously, but respect is a must but your kids have to love you enough to want to make you please with their efforts, they should want you to be proud of them to some degree, your their parents!!! you raise them with praise from infancy on! look at just learning to smile, to first words, to steps!!! its part of the process!
me, I loved my dad and respected him, I wanted him to be proud of me, and I was scared to death of him second..... but pleasing was first! belt or no belt! and yes I got that once or twice, thats all I ever needed! I never didnt do my homework because I was scared of the belt, I did it because I did it for me and to get straight A's and not have him upset that I wasnt perfect but I knew I wasnt but that didnt mean I didnt have to try hard to try and get there!
thats like washing dishes and leaving dirt on them or leaving them out on the counter to get all dusty after you wash them!! ... I am old school and I raise my kids old school plain as I see it! do it right