Originally Posted by Suzie
Thanks Phil and to all for caring...it's hard for me to accept the cutting remarks of my husband...I so wish I had good health...true he does not understand how this disability affects me, his take on the situation is to get my act together and get back to working with the animals....anyway, this evening I am going down to my animals to feed them all and tell them that I will be back soon. I got upset yesterday when I discovered that he had taken away the upturned plastic box that Dizzy and Bertha sleep on...all because it is extra work to clean the poop off...ten seconds with a hosepipe...grrrr! Anyway tonight Dizzy gets her box back...!
Had my appointment with the surgeon...he squeezed my foot and my hands started flapping...you know that feeling when you want to scream silently...anyway, I go back to see him in 2 months so all must be OK My husband even remarked that my hands were flapping and he said my face expressed pain...there is a caring human in him that needs to come out once in a while...
C'est la vie
Love to everyone
to you -- have you tried saying some of this *to* him? Sometimes folks can be a bit dense at picking up on things that we think should be obviously apparent, perhaps hearing you put into words how his actions and attitude are making you feel would bring about the change you are hoping for? Unless he's just a raging butthead chances are he doesn't *want* to hurt you, so if he knew he was he'd want to change it......
Originally Posted by Bunnylady
Someone has something in their siggy about being kinder than you have to, because you never know what burden someone else is carrying . . . and you never really know what is going on in someone else's head. I hate asking for help; when I do, I often feel like I am getting a "you are so lucky that I am helping you" vibe back. It absolutely makes me want to bite. But maybe, all they really want is an "I appreciate you?"
Yeah, what she said!
It can be hard on both sides of the equation, that's for sure - but that is truly an excellent way to approach life and one I try to practice, though I know sometimes I slip.
Originally Posted by LittleLakePhil
Wow Feel old today is my son's 33rd birthday
Well, happy birthday to him!