Originally Posted by AmyLynn2374
Awe. Sounds like it is going better with her than the boy we've adopted. Seems like he's been beat. Just lifting a hand to pet the side of his face or put his leash on can throw him into a snap attack. He wants to trust, you can see it in his eyes, but just simple things can set him off. Quite nervous and upset. We're trying hard with him to gain his trst, but I am afraid that even if we do what will happen when the kids come over. This is hard.
We've adopted abused dogs several times. Some can get over it, others cannot. Most can, but when you do have visitors, put him in a safe and quiet place where he won't be disturbed. Some dogs are more comfortable with a kennel they can use as a safe place. But a couple of hints...
Don't reach out to the dog. Sit down with a treat (and leash if going for a walk) and call the dog to you. Wait patiently for him to process the request and work through the trust issue. When he approaches, keep your hand below his head, where he can see it, and move slowly. Say reassuring words, speaking softly. If at the last second he pulls away, relax and start again. Once you've touched, or attached the leash, reward with a walk or a back scratch as appropriate. Avoid touching his face until he puts it in your lap.
We adopted a very loving dog who was beaten so badly that he would run by at full speed, throw out his tongue for a flying kiss, then go cower behind a sofa. It took a few YEARS before he stopped closing his eyes when we'd reach out to him.
While I hate medicating humans or animals unnecessarily, anti-anxiety medications prescribed by a veterinarian may help your dog acclimate to his new surroundings.
Edited by WalnutHill - 11/10/15 at 6:49am