My brother is 17 mo younger than me, we have always been really close, best friends for a long time really. He went into the marines before he graduated HS, spent a semester at a marine prep school his jr year, and was shipped out to Afghanistan right after he graduated in 2004. He went to Iraq 2x after that deployment. He's been out for about a year and a half now, lives in state but at the other end, and is never around! I dont even know him anymore! And any effort to get together is like treated as besically "family comes after friends and booze" so is this a normal thing for a 24yo or is this an issue stemming from his time in the war? I never even know when he is in town, his gf has to tell me to be sure we can get together, and even then he doesnt have time for his nephews, who used to be #1, he just wants me to meet him at the bar, end of story. I invited them for dinner one night, made a huge turkey dinner, mom and stepdad were there on time, and about 1.5 hours later I called my brother asking WHERE he was and he said "O, well we're just now leaving to head that way so we will be ther ein an hour or so." Uh, what!? Seriuosly, I am just about to strangle him.... so please tell me this is a normal 24 yo thing that he will get over!!!!