Just a mom needing a place to vent a little, and maybe a hug or two. DS, 18 should Graduate from HS on the 28th. Invites sent, cap and gown at the ready, cake ordered and open house planned. But English grade is an F (43%). Last quarter it was a D+ (71%.) They have to do a "Senior Project" and are told from freshman year that it is half their 2nd Semester English grade. Don't pass Senior Project, don't pass english, don't graduate. It's that simple. The project consists of the physical project (restore a tractor, make quilts for homeless shelter, hold a dance a thon to raise money for Haiti, whatever), a paper, and the final presentation. There are lots of little pieces along the way that are graded, to give them "check ups" on how it's going, and keep them on track (mentor hours logbook check, A letter to the panel of judges introducing yourself and your project, a resume, etc.) His project was a video showing his "top 10" list of Architecture in our town (We live in Columbus, Indiana a small town ranked like 6th in the nation for noteworthy architecture. We'll actually be featured on "CBS Sunday Morning" show this weekend if you want to see what I'm talking about.) He completed the project, and did the final presentation Wed., I was there. When I asked to tell me honestly how many times he practiced (after trying repeatedly to get him to practice at home) - he says "Once, in class." And from our conversations, I knew that on that one practice time he got lost and it didn't go too well. (probably because he just got up and winged it, off the cuff.) My DS is a bright kid, capeable of B's by attending class & turning in homework. With a little added effort, like studying for tests, could be an A student. He's the first-born, so was I, and I know I'm harder on him. He's also young for his grade, having just made the age cutoff for Kindergarten by a couple of weeks (MAN! I wish someone wise had told me that starting the next year was fine and actually might be benificial in the long run!). His main problems with school have been and continue to be Responsibility. Simply put: doing homework and turning it in. We've done many, many things over the years to discipline, encourage, retrain, and coerce responsiblity, to no avail. This has been a struggle since 7th grade. So here I sit. He has 5 days of school left. Of 15 grades/assignments related to the Senior Project this quarter he blew off 8 so far, and in all probability will blow off the last two as well (Thank you cards to his mentor & judging board is one, and I'm certain he won't do them. The other is "writing on the Senior Project" and since he was winging everything, I'm not sure he has anything written to turn in.) My prayer has been, Dear Lord, let him receive the grade that will be best for him, only you know what that is. I will stop thinking that a failing kid is somehow the parent's fault. I will stop thinking that a failing kid is somehow the teachers' fault. Sure they can be, but I know now that sometimes the parents and teachers and counselors, do all we can and the kid just won't listen.