I have a strict policy in any relationship whether it's between friends, family, or coworkers. Don't lend any money when you expect the recipient to pay you back, and don't expect someone to return you the favor, let it be a pleasant surprise. Well every now and then I forget and allow someone to talk me into doing them a favor, that is, when I am convinced they will return the favor once they give me their word.
Here it goes, I picked up a birthday present for a friend that couldn't go to the store and get it herself (for whatever reasons I'm not sure). She was told she didn't have to get a present for this party. I was ensured that I would be reimbursed for the cost - $10 +tax (which isn't much... probably $10.76) so she didn't have any cash at the moment, and couldn't find her checkbook. So I said, Instead of paying me back, just make a donation to Team Jack for the Annual ACA Walk n Wheel online (gave her the website) - super easy, right? I didn't think it would be a problem since her household income is about 5x more than of mine (between $5,000-$6,000 per MONTH at the least). So I give her the benefit of the doubt and wait a week until it is pay day. NOTHING. Should I let it go? Are my feelings validated?
It is only $10, but I could have used that money to buy 3 boxes of cereal, or 5lbs of apples, NECESSITIES - gasoline so I can drive my son to all his specialists (he's had 2 brain surgeries so far, syringomyelia, hydrocephalus and an arachnoid cyst)! I would have felt much better if she would have just donated it to an organization that help people with mobility issues, than any other option. I didn't think she would be so self-absorbed to forget this kind of things since she is a "follower" in Jesus... (don't get me started on HYPOCRITES!) I don't know about everyone here, but when I give someone my word, it's as good as gold.
EVERY TIME I do something like this, THIS always happens to me. So just a word of advice, do something for someone else out of the kindness of your heart, don't expect anything back.
People suck.
...and now I step off my soap box.
Here it goes, I picked up a birthday present for a friend that couldn't go to the store and get it herself (for whatever reasons I'm not sure). She was told she didn't have to get a present for this party. I was ensured that I would be reimbursed for the cost - $10 +tax (which isn't much... probably $10.76) so she didn't have any cash at the moment, and couldn't find her checkbook. So I said, Instead of paying me back, just make a donation to Team Jack for the Annual ACA Walk n Wheel online (gave her the website) - super easy, right? I didn't think it would be a problem since her household income is about 5x more than of mine (between $5,000-$6,000 per MONTH at the least). So I give her the benefit of the doubt and wait a week until it is pay day. NOTHING. Should I let it go? Are my feelings validated?
It is only $10, but I could have used that money to buy 3 boxes of cereal, or 5lbs of apples, NECESSITIES - gasoline so I can drive my son to all his specialists (he's had 2 brain surgeries so far, syringomyelia, hydrocephalus and an arachnoid cyst)! I would have felt much better if she would have just donated it to an organization that help people with mobility issues, than any other option. I didn't think she would be so self-absorbed to forget this kind of things since she is a "follower" in Jesus... (don't get me started on HYPOCRITES!) I don't know about everyone here, but when I give someone my word, it's as good as gold.
EVERY TIME I do something like this, THIS always happens to me. So just a word of advice, do something for someone else out of the kindness of your heart, don't expect anything back.
People suck.
...and now I step off my soap box.