Some of you may remember my story about a year ago about my 2 oldest sons. Both were adopted about 8 years ago, and each went to separate families. My oldest, Jesse, has been in contact with me for a few months. He will be 16 next month. At first our conversations were pretty nice, catching up on old times and trying to get to know each other. Lately most of the conversations are one-sided, his side, because he either doesn't respond to anything I say or because when he does respond it's to tell me how much what I said is not what he wanted to hear and he doesn't want to talk to me anymore Yesterday I was gone all day at a poultry show, but my youngest son, Cristian (6), had stayed home with my dad. He was on facebook most of the day playing his games, and I had forgotten to go offline on chat. So when I finally got home and sat down to check emails I saw that Jesse had tried to chat with me. I sent him a message letting him know that it wasn't me online and that I wasn't ignoring him. So today when I checked facebook, I had a message from Jesse, probably more like 8 messages. He's asking if he can come live with me. But here's the kicker. He doesn't want to live with me to be with me, he wants to live with me because I'm in KY and a girl he's obsessed with lives in NC. He is in MI, and he figures that I'm closer to her. I don't know what he's thinking, it's not like living here would make him anymore close to her, I'm sure I'd never take him there. The only way he'd get closer to her is by running away, which I'm afraid he would do. He also says that his parents don't understand him and don't care, which I seriously doubt. I think he is just a messed-up kid that needs help and doesn't want to do what needs to be done to 'get fixed'. I'm afraid to tell him no, because that will start a whole new round of how much he hates me and how much I'm not what he needs, but I don't think him coming to stay here for these reasons is the right thing. What do I do??