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Adopted Toddlers Can't Travel To Their New Moms & Pops! Help!!!!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Carolyn252, Oct 12, 2010.

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  1. Carolyn252

    Carolyn252 Mother of Chickens

    Dear Everyone,

    The President and Congress need to fix a red-tape nightmare that's affecting 80 American families who are all trying to bring their adopted kids home to the USA.

    This is a link to a petition that I hope you will sign. The petition asks the government to expedite the visas for these 80 kids.

    http://www.petition2congress.com/2/3608/view_all/64/ [IF THAT LINK DOESN'T WORK, JUST COPY AND PASTE IT INTO YOUR BROWSER. ]

    The Petition's website administrator will immediately send the signed petition to President Obama and to your State's Senators and Congressional Representatives.

    The Petition started on the morning of October 11, 2010 and is already showing up everywhere on the web in blogs, on Facebook, Twitter, etc., and within the first 24 hours, 724 people had signed the petition, resulting in 1575 signed copies sent to our political leaders by email and by hand-delivered hard copy.

    PLEASE sign the petition. My daughter Amy had to leave her newly adopted little girl in the orphanage in Nepal, and I'm hoping this petition will gather so many signatures that our federal government will have to wake up and fix this nightmare. The petition will help all 80 of the adoptive parents to bring their new children home with them from Nepal.

    PLEASE forward this email to every one of your email contacts, friends and family. Please post it on your Facebook pages, on Twitter, and in your blogs.

    We've got to make this happen.

    If you want to know more about my own particular views on this whole governmental travesty, make yourself a cup of tea and sit down for a long read. This is my personal letter to President Obama, to the Department of State's Hillary Clinton, and to the "Powers That Be:" [I wrote the following letter on October 5, 2010]:

    Please let my new granddaughter come home. She's two and a half years old and has been living in an orphanage in Nepal since she was two month of age. Her new mother is my daughter, a woman of great courage and nurturing compassion.

    The new obstructionist policies of the United States Department of State denying visas to newly adopted Nepalese orphans have stranded eighty American families in a limbo of heartless U.S-government abandonment.

    That policy, declaring all eighty of these infants and toddlers' status as not adoptable because the children are victims of child trafficking, is so very un-American.

    To be charged guilty until proven innocent, (of fraud, child trafficking, stolen and sold human merchandise), is a cruel and heartless modern rendition of the McCarthyism witch hunt of know nothing, suspect everything.

    That policy, instigated and supported by the Department of State and the United States Citizenship & Immigrations Services, and the United States Department of Homeland Security, has been implemented with no thought to the impact it will have on eighty U.S. families whose adopted Nepali children have already been approved by the government of Nepal as lawfully available for adoption.

    Over the years, hundreds of Nepali children have been adopted by American families, and visas were automatically and immediately issued to allow every one of those children to enter the United States.

    If the Federal government of the United States of America now feels the need to close any further adoptions, surely such a policy should be implemented AFTER the eighty families who have already been matched with a child have brought those beloved children home.

    These eighty newly adoptive parents have gone through two years of investigation to prove themselves worthy of adopting. Two years of repeated home studies, fingerprinting, criminal investigation, medical exams, social and psychological competency tests, establishing financial sufficiency, etc., etc. Each family has spent thousands and thousands of dollars hiring adoption agencies and adoption attorneys, both here and abroad. Nursery rooms have been furnished and decorated, families have rallied round dreams of new little lives in their midst.

    The wrenching destruction of dreams, based on guilty until proven innocent, is not the stuff of American character and integrity and opting for the greater good.

    That new policy requires eyewitness confirmation as substantial corroborating evidence that the child was indeed found, abandoned and alone, on the streets of Nepal.

    And though every staff member of every one of these eighty kids' orphanages is ready, willing and able to confirm that the child has, since infancy, been living in the orphanage, the United States government insists that that's not enough evidence.

    The orphanages can produce original signed and dated documents of orphanage admission forms, intake medical exams, and photographs of the children as tiny infants. The orphanages have the original letters going back and forth between their admissions offices and the Nepali government registering the newly admitted children.

    But somehow, and suddenly, that's not enough. The U.S. government's new policy insists that the specific individuals who originally found the babies must step up and declare that indeed said baby was found abandoned. That new policy wants declarations from the police officer to whom the abandoned baby was brought. What would really satisfy the new policy is for the natural parents to declare that they deliberately abandoned the baby and that the baby is not wanted, has not been stolen, has not been sold, and that it's fine with them if the baby is placed for international adoption.

    That American policy, setting a burden of proof on so high a bar as to be functionally unobtainable, is a Catch-22 in all its tortured glory. A patriarchal society, declaring unwed mothers as unmarriageable, couched in a third-world country of constantly shifting governmental authority, steeped in the cultural survival mores of keep your head down and don't get involved, is NOT going to respond to officious foreign investigators flashing their badges and demanding eyewitness statements about abandoned babies.

    The DOS, UCIS, and DHS make two oppositional claims. On the one hand, they imply that the country of Nepal is small and is structured as an collection of familial communities where everyone knows everyone and everyone knows whatever happens to any of them. That claim allows the U.S. government to insist that eyewitnesses to child abandonment are eminently feasible and readily obtainable.

    On the other hand, those same federal offices imply that Nepal is so large and made up of so many disparate municipalities hosting innumerable public and private orphanages, that Nepali natural parents who are currently hunting for their abducted children face an almost insurmountable hurdle. That claim allows our federal offices to insist that the eighty children, who have already been languishing in Nepali orphanages for years, must continue to remain in the orphanages until they reach their teens so that their natural parents can have a chance of finding them.

    And the “truth” no doubt, lies somewhere in the middle of these two conflicting points of view. But, years of political history have taught us that it takes at least two people to construct a conspiracy, yet a secret can only be kept a secret if fewer than two people know it. Is every single staff member, in every single orphanage that's holding one of those eighty kids, all part of a secret conspiracy, and all committed to secrets and lies about the orphan' origins and history? Is that a reasonable postulate? Reasonable enough to resign eighty Nepali children to lifelong misery and poverty, living retarded lives of desperation? Reasonable enough to destroy the hopes and dreams of American would-be parents?

    I say to the Departments of State, U.S. Citizenship & Immigration Services, and Homeland Security: You are personified by actual human beings wielding the governmental power of your titled offices. Those titles are but names for offices, naught but rooms filled with desks, phones, computers and the material trappings of modern technology. It's not the Department office that makes the decisions that so enhance or destroy our lives. Some one person, some aggregate collection of persons, sitting somewhere in those offices, made that fateful August 6, 2010 policy decision that has so cruelly truncated eighty families' dreams.

    And so now, what to do? Egos restrict conscience. How can face-saving mechanisms be put in place to allow reversal of bad policy decisions? How can the person, or persons, responsible for that devastating policy somehow manage to reverse that policy without sacrificing self-image, or losing colleagues' esteem, and without jeopardizing his/her own position in the governmental hierarchy?

    No one is going to reverse that policy if it means losing their job, or their chances for reappointment when the duration of the diplomatic post runs out.

    I have no answers. I can only hope that some supervisor, some government official higher up the chain, can and will override this travesty and reverse that policy.
    Hillary Clinton?? Barak Obama???

    Essentially, visas for all the Nepali children already matched with those eighty prospective adoptive parents should immediately be issued without any further delay, procedures, investigation or hurdles.

    All Nepal orphans that were matched with American families and flew home to the United States BEFORE the devastating new policy of two months ago, all got their visas without a hitch. No problems. The prospective parents flew to Nepal, signed the documents and took the kids home to the States within a week or two.

    There is nothing new or different about the eighty cases that are left in the pipeline.

    Why single them out for this particular nightmare?????????????

    You want to close down Nepali adoptions? Fine; but do it AFTER the matched families are home safe and sound with their new children.

    There are still plenty of American families who will suffer disappointment. Those are the prospective adoptive parents still in the initial stages of the adoption procedures. Only a few months or so into the two-year process of home studies, investigations and exams, they have not yet been matched with a child. Their disappointment will be real but not the heartrending devastation felt by families who have already been matched.

    To be matched means you've already gotten a photograph of the child, been told the child's name, and the delights of the child's personality have been shared. Many of the eighty matched parents have already flown to Nepal, met the babies and spent days and weeks and months bonding and loving and adoring their new children. Just waiting for the visas to be issued, so they can take their kids home.

    And now our own precious government, our United States of America, is murdering our expectations. How can this be?????????

    Please reverse this horrible new policy. Now. Not soon. Now. The babies are losing their precious window of language acquisition, socialization accommodation, self-image foundational structures, interpersonal communication motivation, and all the basic markers that allow for a whole, well-rounded person to develop.

    Some of the prospective adoptive parents have had to fly home, leaving their precious new children behind. You cannot imagine the pain of knowing that you're causing this little dear child to know abandonment so keenly. Especially agonizing for the toddlers as they're old enough to wonder, where has Mama/Papa gone? What have I done?

    I lost my own natural father to a heart attack when he was 34 and I was but seven years old. Abandonment is a tearful, lifelong misery, no matter its cause.

    Some of the American families are opting to remain in Nepal with their new children for two years so as to qualify for visas under the relevant immigration laws. Two years of physical custody outside of the United States, and the adopted child will be granted a visa. That's a feasible option if one's finances and family obligations will allow. But mighty few of the eighty families can manage that. They've got other kids at home, or elderly dependent parents, or established professional practices, or invested business ownerships. Farms need tending, universities need faculty, hospitals need their physicians.

    The eighty families represent every region of the United States. We are upstanding, tax-paying citizens. We vote, we labor, and we raise our children to be productive Americans.

    But that awful August 6th policy is a threat to our livelihood, to our individual right to pursue happiness and build a better America through building American families.

    We need our government to rescue these eighty families. We need rescuing, so that we can rescue the sweet little innocents.

    Ms. Clinton; President Obama, please fix this.

    http://www.petition2congress.com/2/...milies-in-adoption-pipeline-waiting-to-bring/ [IF THAT LINK DOESN'T WORK, JUST COPY AND PASTE IT INTO YOUR BROWSER. ]
     
    Last edited: Oct 22, 2010
  2. Cindiloohoo

    Cindiloohoo Quiet as a Church Mouse

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    That is horrible! I can not have children, but I also haven't been promised one...I can't imagine.
     
  3. turney31

    turney31 Chillin' With My Peeps

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  4. Carolyn252

    Carolyn252 Mother of Chickens

    Quote:I appreciate your reaching out and saying so. But... did you sign the petition???? I hope so, hope so.
    And, would you please forward my posting to a zillion of your friends and family????? I hope so, hope so.

    Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!
    -Carolyn
     
  5. Patchesnposies

    Patchesnposies Chickens.....are my ONE weakness!

    Mar 5, 2008
    Southern New Mexico
    Carolyn,

    What a fantastic, heartfelt letter that you wrote, Grandma. I will be signing the petition and sending it on to a couple of adoption list serves that I belong to. I understand the agony your daughter and the other families must be going through.

    Two of my children were adopted from Vietnam in 2001/2002. We came very close to being in the same position as your daughter and the other families. The in-country adoption facilitator who worked with our adoption agency had been found to be less than scrupulous all across the board. She worked with many adoption agencies and there were several families who had been matched through her efforts who found themselves in the position of being in Vietnam, having been handed over their child, who then was considered by the Vietnamese government to be a US citizen but they were not granted visa's by the US government. These families then faced having to live in Vietnam for two years to establish residency in order to bring their children home. In at least one case, with a family we met and knew while there, the wife stayed with the family and the father flew home to return to work. Either case, an incredible hardship for a family to face.

    Our year and a half old daughter, Ellie, came home in Sept 2001, by the time we returned to pick up mike (4.5 with a significant heart defect and very ill), in January, things were hitting the fan and US adoptions from Vietnam would be halted for four years by May of 2002.

    The paperwork we were given concerning Mike's arrival at the orphanage seemed contradictory to what we were being told by the officials at the gov. run orphanage and we were getting very anxious about the possibility of our family being faced with the dilemma of receiving our son, but not being able to bring him home.

    I wrote an impassioned email, much like the yours, to the head INS officer in Ho Chi Minh City, asking for them to review our case and telling why we were fearful before we traveled. They were under no obligation to conduct an investigation at all but chose to anyway and concluded that our case, while facilitated by this unethical woman was still legitimate and we were free to travel to bring home our son.

    I believe that each of the cases involving the 80 families and children who are already matched should be investigated on its own and these children if they are documented as legitimately free for inter-country adoption should be allowed to be united with their family and allowed to come home. Those potential adoptive families whose process has not progressed to the point that a specific child has been assigned will have to chose either to wait until Nepal has re-opened or make the choice to continue on with international adoption via another country.

    We desired to adopt another child, but US/Vietnam adoptions are once again halted and who knows when they will resume. The irony is that our daughter was originally assigned to a French family at the age of 6 weeks, but Vietnamese/french adoptions were closed for a year, and when they resumed the French family decided not to proceed with their referred child (now OUR daughter) because they wanted an infant. So we accepted the referral of our daughter Eliana Tuong-Vi at the age of 13 mos. She came home at 17 mos. Now, she is 10 years old and I believe that all was orchestrated to bring her and our son, now 13 and healthy!, to us as it was absolutely meant to be.

    My prayers are for your whole family, and that you all will be united soon! Please keep us updated.

    Deb
     
  6. Patchesnposies

    Patchesnposies Chickens.....are my ONE weakness!

    Mar 5, 2008
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    When I click on the link to the petition it says the URL is not valid and cannot be loaded.....have I missed my opp?
     
  7. elevan

    elevan Chillin' With My Peeps Premium Member

    Quote:The same just happened to me...just copy and paste it into the address bar and it'll take you there.
     
  8. Patchesnposies

    Patchesnposies Chickens.....are my ONE weakness!

    Mar 5, 2008
    Southern New Mexico
    Quote:The same just happened to me...just copy and paste it into the address bar and it'll take you there.

    THANKS!
     
  9. Carolyn252

    Carolyn252 Mother of Chickens

    Quote:The link definitely works on other sites, don't know why it's not working on BYC. I went back into my BYC posting and added a note to say that if the link doesn't work, to just copy and paste it into a new browser window. Hope you try that. It should work that way just fine. Let me know how you make out.

    And thank you for sharing your incredible story with me. I'm going to immediately show it to my daughter.

    Thanks for all your good wishes. Do please tell everyone about the petition and urge them to sign it.

    -Carolyn
     
  10. Mac in Wisco

    Mac in Wisco Antagonist

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    I commend those who open their hearts and homes to those children in need.



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