I'm just at a complete loss... I don't know what to do or say. My husband has been in the military as enlisted but is now reconsidering becoming an officer and retiring, now I just don't know what to think, on one end I want to go home and raise my kids in one place, on the other it's only another 12 years before he could retire and it would create oppritunites for us and our children that wouldnt otherwise be available. I am asking as someone who has lived life, what is the answer, what is important, raising kids around thier family and in one place, or commiting 12 more years and securing a future but sacraficing moving a few times and possible deployments as well as not getting to be raised around family. Both options have a lot of benefits but I just don't know what to think. Both are important but I want to know if you could do it over what you would do? Having lived life what's more important?