ok so to make sense of this post I have to give some background. When my hubby and I got together it was through a friend. I was 3 years older than him and both his sister and her boyfriend told him not to date me, they didn't even know me as I had just moved back in the area from another province. I met him when my best friend brought him over to help me paint my apartment. We hit it off immediately and I guess he started telling his sister that he was thinking of asking me to move in together and yadda yadda. He had been living with his sister and her boyfriend paying pretty much all the bills and buying all the food so they freaked out when they realized they would have to pay for all of thier own stuff if he moved out. they started bad mouthing me and telling him all the reasons I was no good for him. Everytime there was a family function I was left out of it, after attending a thanksgiving dinner he asked his parents why they left me out of the invite and they told him everything his sister had been telling them. well he got angry with them and told them they either accepted me or could forget about even talking to him, he told them he loved me and was going to ask me to marry him, at this point we had been together 8 months. following that he asked me to move in together and we did, shortly after that I accidentally got pregnant and I was completely freaked out but he was cool as a cucumber. I broke down crying because I knew exactly what his family would say. in any event it wasn't until I was 8 months pregnant that they decided to talk to me again, they still sent invites via phone and would specifically say the invite was only for my husband. the day my husband told them we were pregnant they threw the biggest hissy fit and a week later his sister found out she was pregnant and they were so happy, they took her out for dinner to celebrate with the whole family and then threw her the biggest baby shower according to what they said and the photos they sent me to my email account, which I knew it was just to rub it in. anyhow, at 8 months pregnant they suddenly all wanted to be part of our lives, even his biological father and his wife and step children. my baby was born and they brought over gifts etc....then my husband got layed off and he told them he was uprooting the family to the west coast. well they all blamed me saying it was all my idea to keep him from being anywhere near them. and in fact I didn't even want to go but he couldn't find a job in our province and he had one already lined up and a place to stay out on the west coast. so we went and they again refused to talk to me. the icing on the cake was when I found out his sister was tellign people I was beating my baby, my husband lost his mind when he found me crying. he confronted her and she apologised. fast forward three years, we moved back, and she was fine, spent time with us etc... my father past away and left us enough money to buy our own place so in 2005 we bought a farm in the northern region of our province, again she blamed me but it was her brother and my husband that had chosen the location. they threw a going away party and they told him I was not invited and neither was our daughter who was 3. needless to say my husband didn't go. we packed that weekend and left. weeks later we returned to visit friends and my family and his biological father asked us to come to his place for a family reunion, his family reunion. we went, not a single person spoke to me. My husband was so busy with his cousins he didn't even notice until dinner time when they set the table and accidentally didn't set a place for me or my daugther, I literally had to eat outside on the patio set with my little girl and my husband. after dinner we left and we haven't returned. the only reason my husband has anything to do with his family is because I make him call them on holidays and birthdays and I make him send emails and photos. I am big on family its very important to me, my family and I are oceans away but we talk every single day and that includes all my siblings and aunts and uncles and cousins. anyhow fast forward to today.... his biological father has stage 4 cancer, because he refuses to email them or talk to them they are sending all emails to me and messages to my facebok which I relay. well I finally got him to call home yesterday and they told him his dad wants to see us before its too late. he told them he is about to get layed off again and its not possible on the funds we have. so they said no worries we will take care of it, which is a huge shocker, so we are getting everything ready and they email today and said, oh we just want him to come, you and the kids are not welcomed. I tried not to get upset so I let my husband read the message and he wrote back, no worries, I am not coming at all now!!! I am so upset, I don't understand why they are like this, specially at this point in time after 8 years and three kids. I can honestly swear I never did anything wrong. and why punish the kids just because the don't like me. I know that his sister with her rumours caused a lot of damage, and I guess they just can't look past it, but wouldn't it make more sense to just give me a chance to show them I am nothing like she said I was. I just needed to rant I am soo very upset its not even funny. even so I told my husband to still go but no dice he refuses now, and then rubbed in my face that he told me this would happen again.