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another rant out of me re. people who dont get it

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by QuinnP, Mar 30, 2011.

  1. QuinnP

    QuinnP Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I lost my son Seanna to miscarriage on Feb 19 (too many chromosomes) I am devastated, & recently a counselor tried to make me feel better by telling me she knew how I felt because she had a dog that she cherished & loved & it died. A DOG!? I have been fighting infertility for 7 years, lost a precious pregnancy & she thinks losing a dog can compare to losing my baby?! While I love my pets dearly & yes refer to my rooster as my son, it still shocked me to hear that. Its still quite hard to deal with. I'm so upset.

    I understand that the American way of dealing with death is usually to deny it, or try to minimize it. I couldn't speak when Jan told me that about the dog. Nobody knows what it is like to lose a baby unless they've been there. Sorry but a dog doesn't count. Tjhis is the 4th time I have failed at motherhood.
     
  2. hennyannie

    hennyannie Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 12, 2011
    North Carolina
    I am so sorry for your loss. Does this person have kids?
     
  3. Karrie13

    Karrie13 Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 1, 2009
    Minnesota
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss and the insensitivity of the counselor. I love my pets dearly but they don’t hold a candle to a child. The counselor doesn’t sound very qualified to “counsel”.
    You aren’t a failure at motherhood, nature is the problem.
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  4. QuinnP

    QuinnP Chillin' With My Peeps

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  5. QuinnP

    QuinnP Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I hurt so much. I cant breathe because of anxiety today.
     
  6. keedokes

    keedokes Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quinn, you have not failed. In any way shape or form. I am very, very sorry that you're struggling with this. To desire the beginning of a family so much and to be denied it--I certainly have no idea what you've been going through.

    But you have NOT failed. Something like chromosome pairs is NOT something you can control, nor, I am sure, are any of the reasons you've lost any previous babies. You will someday have a precious new life to hold in your arms and you will be a stronger and more wonderful mother due to what you've been going through. Do not lose hope!
     
  7. key west chick

    key west chick Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 31, 2008
    Gainesville, GA
    Im so sorry you had to go through this. [​IMG] To compare a human life to that of an animal, is just... well [​IMG]
     
  8. QuinnP

    QuinnP Chillin' With My Peeps

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    thank you so much. I have had one living daughter who I let be adopted because I knew I couldn't care for her, & 4 losses.
     
  9. kasey08

    kasey08 Aunt Kasey's Farm

    Mar 29, 2010
    Scottsboro, AL
    I agree. I love my animals but there is no way they could compare to a baby. I'm so sorry about your loss. Will be sending prayers your way!
     
  10. Mrs. Turbo

    Mrs. Turbo Chillin' With My Peeps

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