Any potty training advice... for DD...not the

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by Frozen Feathers, Sep 17, 2007.

  1. Frozen Feathers

    Frozen Feathers Songster

    May 4, 2007
    I feel like I am stuck. We read books and talk about going on the potty all the time with her. She has a great vocabulary and talks better then most 3 year olds I know, and has always reached milestones much earlier then other kids her age so maybe I am just expecting too much. She's only 28 months, so she is still young...but I don't know. I guess I thought I would see more progress.

    How did you guys get your kids potty broke... yes I am talking to people with human children. [​IMG]

    We've tried "naked time" where I try to catch her before she has to go, but she just stands there and pees on my floor...grrrr. I don't make a big deal about it...bring her to her potty and say something to the effect of "you need to pee on the potty, because that is where pee goes, not on the floor".

    Recently I have been trying she can feel the wet, but it doesn't seem to phase her. I call them underwear, not diapers and tell her that big girls go pee on the potty and not in their panties. I do have her sit on the potty after every activity and give her high praise when she does go on the potty, but she doesn't tell us when she has to go, despite saying "you need tell mommy when you have to pee or poop so you can go on the potty" a million times a day. I am never negative with her or tell her she is bad for peeing her pants. Just basically, "oops, next time tell mommy before you have to go so you can go on the potty."

    I guess my question is what else can I be doing to ditch the diapers?? Or am I being to impatient??
  2. eggcetra_farms

    eggcetra_farms Songster

    Jun 26, 2007
    San Antonio, TX
    I'm in the same boat with you, except my daughter is 3. Extremely smart, just has no interest in using the toilet - she's come out and said that she just doesn't want to do it! I don't get it!

    My son just woke up one morning and decided from then on he'd use the bathroom like Spiderman (I thought that was so cute) and has ever since. I thought girls were supposed to be quicker to learn.......

    I too use the pull up things and WAS calling them underwear - until my daughter got comfortable with that. I'd asked her if she wanted to start wearing big girl panties because she'd need to use the potty to do that, and she said she was already wearing big girl panties. So I've gone back to calling them diapers. We had a couple of really good days with her using the potty, then she just lost interest it seems. I don't know what else to do!!!! She turned 3 in July and this is just getting ridiculous!

    If anyone has good advice, I'll listen but I've got to tell you I think I've tried EVERYTHING.

  3. MandyH

    MandyH You'll shoot your eye out!

    Oh my gosh, if you can find something that works please let me know. I have a dd that is 27 months old today. She was down to wetting ONE diaper a day when she was like 17 months old, then it got warm outside and she has too much to do to stop and pee. SHe does great with naked time outside. She's worse thatn a dog about stopping and peeing every 2 feet, but inside she will pee in the carpet. My dd too is very smart and has always been ahead of everybody her age. That is what drives me insane. She will mess her pants and come in the house and casually say "doodies Momma". My mom said if she were me she would start wearing her tail out. Which usually I am all for if it is needed. But I do not want her to be afraid to use the toilet so that's the last thing I'm gonna do. It just drives me crazy that she can count and say abc's and all that but can't tell me BEFORE she has peed or pooped. AHHHHH!
  4. rufus

    rufus Crowing

    May 17, 2007
    Give her time. Most little kids aren't really aware or in control of their bodily functions until they are about three. Then they tend to hide when they are pooping. Watch them, learn their routine and when you see them ducking out of sight, just say "You need to sit on the toilet." Of course they always deny it, but if you sit them there, they will produce.

    Little boys are easier to train for peeing because there is a certain entertainment element to it. Just make sure they get all of it in the pot.

    Little girls always appreciate nice underwear. They will go out of their way to make sure they aren't soiled. So, go shopping with her. Let her pick out the what she likes. Then remind her that she has to use the toilet or she will mess up her nice new panties.

    What ever you do, don't get mad and don't yell.

    Remember, they are the ones that can sign the papers putting you in the old folks' home, so be nice.

  5. barg

    barg Songster

    Apr 27, 2007
    I know that the ability to know when they need to go develops at different ages for different kids.
    ItÂ’s been a few years since we had to do potty training and we have at least a year on the next one but....

    I did the naked thing with my daughter to train her, she was older then your daughter at the time and I know that she knew when she had to go because she would ask me to put her diaper on before she went, I took her to the potty instead.

    With my son, it was a different ball game, we had a potty chart with little slips of paper; every time he used the potty he got to put a slip of paper in a slot in the chart, when he got enough slips in the chart we bought him a Thomas train.

    We did this until it was clear to us that he was potty trained and we weaned him off of the rewards.

    We had tried this type of thing with my daughter and it didn't work.

    I think the main thing is to ascertain whether or not they really know when they have to go, otherwise you end up training yourself to run to the bathroom with them when you see them getting ready.

  6. mom'sfolly

    mom'sfolly Crowing

    Feb 15, 2007
    Austin area, Texas
    My guess is that at 28 months you dd doesn't have the control, its a developmental thing. Kids take awhile to learn what those sensations mean and not all kids are alike. It seems to have little to do with how smart a kid is. I have two boys, the older one was harder to train, but immediately had nighttime control. The younger one was potty trained at an earlier age, but at six still does not have nighttime control. He just can't wake up. I entirely sympathize with wanting to be done with the diaper thing; but it might be too early. We did the reading books about using the potty, lots of talking, and rewards. Many parents of little girls do what rufus suggested, shopping for pretty panties and letting those be the reward. Other of my friends had luck with the one week, $100 method. Totally naked for a week, then shampoo the carpets. When finished be prepared to see restrooms in every store you set foot in. 3-year-olds love the grand bathroom tour.[​IMG]

    Good Luck
  7. Country Gal

    Country Gal Songster

    Feb 2, 2007
    Capac, MI
    Option #1 - send her a package from the Underwear Fairy containing some pretty "big girl underwear" and a letter explaining that it's time to not wear diapers anymore.

    Option #2 - tell her that you ran out of money and can't afford diapers anymore.

    The important thing is NOT to use the pull ups! If you put her in regular underwear and she wets her pants, she'll be a heck more uncomfortable in underwear rather than pull ups.

    Good luck!!!
  8. BirdBrain

    BirdBrain Prefers Frozen Tail Feathers

    May 7, 2007
    I would say that it is developmental also. A dear friend once told me (when I was anxious about this) that my DC would not go to college in diapers and to chill out. I eventually ended up waiting until they were about 3.5 and it was summer and sending them outside in a t-shirt and elastic waist short that they could pull down fast with instructions to come inside and go potty when they first felt an urge to go. Invariably my youngest would come in walking like a bow-legged cowboy with a pained look on his face about 10 times a day. I would dutifully tell him to remove his clothes and clean up and change into something else. He finally got tired of this routine after about a week or ten days and decided that it was easier to use the potty, as he hated to be wet.

    My middle child (a girl) was really excited about potty training (at 18 months) when I was working with my oldest son and would yank the potty seat away from under him announcing that it was HER POTTY. [​IMG] I ended up having to get 2 potty chairs side by side. It was truly a hoot. However when my son was finally potty trained, the novelty wore off and she lost interest and was not potty trained until she was 3.5. [​IMG] [​IMG]

    Your cherub will do fine. She is not worried about this at all. [​IMG]
  9. cheeptrick

    cheeptrick Songster

    May 1, 2007
    New Hampshire
    What I did was ANNOUNCE to the whole family that "so and so" was going to throw away her diapers. I did NOT use pull ups during the day...only at night. Then for every pee and poo IN the potty she got a handful of M&M's. I got the mini M&M's because it made me feel better about the sugar. I would also put up a sticker chart in the bathroom...she got a sticker for washing her hands and then the M&M's. I put the jar of M&M's high and would talk about it with her....tell her how YUMMY it was going to be. I also bought a stool and potty seat and told her it was all hers. I put childrens picture books in the basket near the toilet and we would sit and read. THEN when she finally went...WE'D celebrate like MAD...doing the PEE PEE Dance all around like little whooping indians. It took me over 2-3 weeks time for them to start understanding. AND even then they still had accidents from time to time. Just be prepared for accidents...changes of clothes etc. Usually they will HOLD number 2 when we were out. I'd always know they had to go to the bathroom because they would be frantic, crying, running, and being generally naughty in public. I'd just quietly pull them aside and tell them I had to go potty and would you come with me because I'm scared to go by myself. They'd ROLL their eyes at me and then come...and I'd make them go also when we got to the potty.
    I'd also remember at bedtime when I put them down to make them go...then put on pull ups...then around 10:30 or 11:00pm I'd get up and take them to the potty one last time. NEVER had an accident in the bed...well a couple times when they were sick...but that was ok. Remember nightlight for bathroom because they might have an accident because they are scared to go to the potty because of the dark!
    Good luck...I always rewarded my self with M&M's too for being patient! [​IMG] [​IMG]
  10. Chelly

    Chelly Cooped Up

    May 11, 2007
    I would go with what Rufus suggested, some really pretty underwear might just make the difference.

    That being said, my first daughter potty trained at 2 years old - my second is 3 and will be 4 in November, she potty trained a few months ago but still has accidents when she's too busy doing something else.

    Peeing when naked, or with a pull up on is not a big deal, but peeing with clothing on, doesn't feel so good - so keep the clothes on and make them pretty clothes and that will make a little bit of a difference!

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