My DH is on meds, about 2 years ago when I gave him a choice to go to the Dr's or I'd leave him. His normal self was going though some big changes, he was unable to deal with stress, became moody and dramatic. He had just lost his job, his Dad passed away. It took a lot out of him and it became very, very serious. Some of the things he told me demanded that I do the shocking choice in order to save his life. I am not qualified to make decisions on depression, but he really needed to go to a specialist. He's diabetic and has high blood pressure. I don't keep junk in the house, but he isn't a kid and comes home with ice cream, sodas, beer. Again, this is not the norm for him. There's good days and bad days. But lately he's been acting odd. Today he got up, ate breakfast then disappeared. Went back to bed. I asked him if he was ok, he said yes, just tired. Slept until I woke him at 9:30 tonight. I reheated dinner for him, asked if he had his meds (he acted puzzled, then said yes). Then he disappeared again. Thought he went upstairs to take a shower (was still in his pajamas). Instead I found him sleeping in the guest room downstairs. He goes to the VA and I think I may need to contact his dr myself. When he first started taking the meds and going to therapy, we made a pact, that I'd stay as long as he was getting help. There's a good man in there. He's gone from being outgoing and loving to be around friends and family to 'acting' outgoing until he's by himself, then I can see how much effort it has taken for him to do so. And when we do things together as a family, his mood swings go from high to wanting to put himself as the center of attention. He just can't seem to relax. He gets angry at me if I ask if he's taken his meds, (most of the time he hasn't) and gets huffy, saying that that isn't why he's acting the way he does. It's just that this whole thing, it isn't normal for him. I've even noticed his driving has changed. He'll start to move over a lane, and it's like he can't make that decision, wiggles the steering wheel around. Or if he asks me a question, he'll look at me like I'm nuts in answering it then gets frustrated, saying I didn't answer it the way he wanted. What? And in conversations, I've noticed he has problems following some, gets confused and asks questions that are pretty basic. He's only 57. He tells me that he will have good days and bad days, which I understand, but this is different. I'm thinking its a either a combo of his sugars being out of wack or needing an adjustment on his meds. AND...he's on new sleeping meds. He says that it is the first time he's been able to sleep well at night, and at the same time he'll wake up in different rooms with no recollection of getting up and going there. (he took it last night, but not today). He's also spending more time looking at old photographs of family, checking out sites to reconnect with Marines that he was with, and these guys he hasn't connected with in many many years. Any ideas on the best way I can lend support to him? It's kind of a gray area in figuring out what's best, a cheerleading attitude, tough love to get him going. Ignoring him when he's going through this doesn't seem right, giving him space, yeah, but where do you draw the line as acceptable at that time?