Anyone else disappointed by their christmas??

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by pixie74943, Dec 25, 2009.

  1. pixie74943

    pixie74943 Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 25, 2009
    Adelaide, Australia
    Just wondering if anyone elses christmas was as disappointing as mine?

    On the present side of things, I know I sound like a sulky brat, but I am sick (3 years in a row) of putting in so much time and effort to try and get people presents that A. suit them, and B. are a surprise. Every year I get back a couple of books (yeah, I like books, but I can buy them for myself, you just bought exactly what I suggested) and from my Mother, and my Brother.. a token gift, Some chocolate wafer biscuts and a tea-cup. Thanks for thinking about me. I'm 18, live at home, and thats all you could come up with? Thank you Dad and BF for getting something I asked for, and putting in some effort to try and get something that would surprise me and make me happy.

    but apart from that...

    Today I saw my BF, and my brothers GF. I had xmas lunch at home with the family because, My dads side of the family lives interstate, and my mother is too proud to patch things up with her side of the family. Mum's mother and father were out with her sisters, we didnt go because of mums pride. Dad's mother is losing her memory, is 4 days ahead on her tablets and refused to see us today. We dropped by for half an hour to make sure she was sane and hadn't tried to OD again.

    All I wanted for christmas? To see my family, have a good day, Lunch/Dinner, some bon-bons, a few laughs. Presents, I didnt want an overload of presents, I didnt expect a great haul, I just wanted people to actually put in some darn effort for once. I'm sick of handing out presents I spent ages searching for, and getting back chocolate biscuts and a teacup. Seriously, tried not to have any expectations today, and still I'm disappointed.
    Last edited: Dec 25, 2009
  2. chickenzoo

    chickenzoo Emu Hugger

    I thought mine was pretty down until I was stopped at a light and looked over to see a mother in cold windy weather, handing a X-mas wreath to a father for him to hang on a cross by the side of the road............................... My X-mas is just fabulous.
  3. Freebie

    Freebie Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 4, 2007
    Bloomingdale, MI
    I am so sorry for you. We have not had our Christmas yet. Not yet 7am, and waiting for my son and my DIL, with Grandson to come over before we open gifts. I hope to be surprised. This is the first year that my son and daughter have actually gone out and done the shopping on their own. Without help of my husband or me. Totally on their own. I have no idea. I know that my husband and I just get what we want, and if there is nothing we really want or need, we just don't spend the money. I got my husband only a dvd this year. My kids and Grandson, we had an absolute blast shopping for them. I know what you mean, about the gifts. I love spending the time myself to pick out just the right gift for someone. To me that is part of the fun of Christmas. And I too, just love spending time with my family. though we rarely get all of us together at the same time. Almost everyone came to my DD graduation. but not so much Christmas.
    So far all is ok, but not much has happened.
  4. chixie

    chixie Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 6, 2009
    kountze texas
    christmas eve was a little disappointing because my 2 teenagers were fighting in my car and getting on my last nerve... we will see what today brings
  5. jerseygirl1

    jerseygirl1 Overrun With Chickens

    Jun 20, 2009
    Orange County, NY
    Considering I lost four family members this year within one month of each other, you guys are doing better than me. Presents are the farthest thing from my mind. And I consider myself having a lot ot be thankful for!!!!!!
    Have a wonderful day, and an even happier New year!!
    Last edited: Dec 25, 2009
  6. deb1

    deb1 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 26, 2008
    I am having a great Christmas and not because we have any presents. My hubby was out of work for most of the year and is only now working a minimum wage job. We still have our house and are together. That is enough for us.

    You already know that your family will never give you what you want. Why expect them to change? It sounds as if you know that your family has problems. They aren't going to change just because it is Christmas. If you simply accept that they can't give you what you need, then your life will emotionally be much easier.

    My mom was a very screwed up person. My life got better after I stopped expecting her to change.
    Last edited: Dec 25, 2009
  7. OhMyItsAndyy

    OhMyItsAndyy Chillin' With My Peeps

    Dec 22, 2009
    West England
    I'm sorry your christmas is bad *huggs*
    Try to remember you are such a good friend and family member though to put effort into other's presents, so you do come out as the better person. They're very lucky to have someone as special as you x
  8. scgamecock

    scgamecock Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jan 18, 2008
    Conway SC
    It is more blessed to give than to receive.We are to give from our heart and expect nothing in return but it will not go unnoticed.It will come back to you when you need it the most.God Bless!
  9. deerman

    deerman Rest in Peace 1949-2012

    Aug 24, 2008
    Southern Ohio
    Mine starting out bad, no longer have my Dad,Mother,Brother, or Son to share this Christmas. All 4 past in the last few years.

    Now I get so much joy from giving presents to my other sons and their family. Can wait to spent today with them, Christmas is about sharing love and care for others, not receiving. So spent happy times with your love ones, while they are here on earth with you. Overlook their faults, as we all have some.

    MERRY CHRISTMAS, and remember this is the birthday of CHRIST
  10. Sjisty

    Sjisty Scribe of Brahmalot

    May 18, 2009
    Christmas brings mixed emotions to me, also. Hubby has been out of work 12 out of the last 24 months, so there is no money for gifts. Our daughters are getting "token" homemade cookies and very little else, except for our love and a good Christmas dinner (our own chickens). My gift from Hubby is a pantry that he is building in my kitchen.

    My greatest joy at Christmas is seeing my daughter, who lives in Texas. She and her husband came last week, since she couldn't get this week off. My son died in a car accident a few years ago, so there is a big empty hole always, not just for Christmas, but Christmas day always brings a few tears, too. Hubby's daughters are coming today, so that will be good.

    All in all, Christmas is good. I cherish memories of Christmas past and look forward to many more. Hopefully by next Christmas there will be a grandchild, as my daughter has, after six years of trying, made an appointment with a specialist and is determined to get pregnant in 2010! If it is a boy, he will be named after her brother/my son, Richard.

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