Reading CarriBrown's post got me thinking of my dh and I about 8 years ago. We'd been married about 1 1/2 years and got to thinking of having our own children. It took 6 months for me to get pregnant. I had an u/s at 12 weeks b/c my ob could hear no heartbeat. Everything looked fine. My ob would not do another u/s even after 28 weeks and I still could not feel my daughter (eventhough we didn't know for sure she was a girl at the time). Long story short, Payton Ryleigh was stillborn at 36 weeks. 3 months later, we decided to try again. It took 3 months to conceive this time. I went to another ob, this time in Winston-Salem, it was worth the 1+ hour drive. Everything seemed fine, I had an u/s every visit. At 28 weeks he started falling behind in growth. Long story short, Kolby Greyson was born at 36 weeks and lived on life support at 17 days (the hardest choice we ever had to make). Over a year later we decided to try again (by now everyone, including ourselves, thought we were insane to keep trying). I got pregnant right away. At 11 weeks, on our 5th wedding anniversary, we found out this baby had died too. Well, we decided to forgo any bc. I bleed so bad with the d&c we didn't know if I could ever get pregnant again. Almost a year to the day later I was pregnant again. Now everyone was ready to send me to the the loony bin. Long story short, Brennan Grady was born at 36 weeks, and healthy. Nothing like hearing my baby boy cry after all of this. My first baby was lost Sept 2000, and Brennan will be 3 on November 6. When Brennan was 8 months old I got pregnant again, and Iveigh Meadow was born healthy. So you know God will bless you. Sometimes you just have to endure some loss to get the blessing. I always tell people who have lost children, Never give up. It is extremely painful to go through, but what doesn't kill you can make you stronger. Even if having you own child isn't possible, there is also adoption (which we started to pursue right before I got pregnant with Brennan).