Are you a senior and do you live with your kids or do they live with you?

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by rancher hicks, Aug 2, 2014.

  1. rancher hicks

    rancher hicks Chicken Obsessed

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    We are considering having my DD and hers move in with us. My SIL does construction and we need some help with the house. They have two small children. We have a big enough house, but will need at room finished off. They did live with us, before and after the first one was born.

    I remember my grandmother lived with my aunt and uncle. My mother lived with my sister, but at that time she was sick and lived there til she passed.

    So I kinda wondered how many adult kids are living with their parents or vice versa and how you deal with things.

    Any thoughts or comments? Yes I can deal with anything negative so if you feel up to playing the devils advocate knock yourself out.

    I may not comment on advice given so don't think I haven't read your comments.
     
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  2. Stiggy

    Stiggy Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I cant really say but over here in NZ a lot of people live with their parents till their 30's or above, some never move out and many move back with their kids when things go bad. I also know that when parents get older or grandchildren are born the grandparent will move in/ closer to be around and help. It seems to work for a lot of people as long as everyone gets on and what not.

    If you have them living with you then I would think that some basic rules are in order, rent, chores, not dumping the kids on you to go out every weekend etc .

    I guess you could see it as a blessing or a curse, depending but on one hand you will see much more of your grand kids
     
  3. rancher hicks

    rancher hicks Chicken Obsessed

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    We love our grandkids. My wife once drove over to their house just to kiss my granddaughter good night.
     
  4. lazy gardener

    lazy gardener Flock Master

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    My situation is different: Have grand kids but not their parents. We get by. Energy level is the biggest issue. If a home is big enough, and there are clear cut boundaries, I can see how it could be a blessing for all involved. With a crowded situation, and money mismanagement, Adult children taking advantage of the situation, it could be a total nightmare.
     
  5. rancher hicks

    rancher hicks Chicken Obsessed

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    They lived with us before and we survived. As long as he's working things are okay. He is a hard worker but in construction. It's not so much a financial thing for us really.
     
  6. LindaB220

    LindaB220 Overrun With Chickens

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    Off and on I've had all three of my daughters and their families live with me. Then I got an apt and sold the family home. My health was not great and we made the decision that this time I would live with my middle DD Aimee and her hubby and son. We are a fit. Yes, everybody has arguments but I never think to myself "This was a mistake". I'm a private person and I spend a lot of time in my room. TV, books and BYC. I pay for my room and board, help out with cooking occasionally and put dishes in the dishwasher. It's a happy life. I'm not alone and have help if I need it. Haven't much but will later. You already know what it's like living with them. I say Go for it!! [​IMG]
     

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