Warning: This is a rant. I blew a gasket. It is NOT a friendly topic. Background: Okay, so DH is in school yes? Works for his dad. Dad hired another fella, Wayne, solely so that DH could attend classes. The new hire was hired on at the exact hourly wage as DH, though DH has been there for seven YEARS. Wayne hasn't worked a full week the entire time... something always comes up. He refuses to do deliveries because he doesn't like to drive, etc etc. He is NOT doing the same job as DH, or even as the owner. He's also borrowed money, to be paid back bit by bit out of his check, over the years to the tune of over $2000.00 (current balance, not the total) So, his wife is very diabetic. Refuses to watch her diet. Refuses to even so much as call in a prescription, n'mind picking it up. She makes her hubby do all that. Including WALKING to get it. Mind you they bought a car with their latest tax return, but they refuse to drive it. Personally I think they could have used that same money to pay back what they owe, or HEY here's an idea pay up the rent you were behind, but that's me. Did I mention he's a history of drug and alcohol use? And he's missed work for drunk and disorderly... etc. Wife would lock him out and call the police even when he wasn't drinking or abusive. Drama Drama Drama. And in the middle of all this is a 12-13 year old girl. Now all through this time Wayne has bad mouthed Owner to DH, knowing that's his Dad... really does on and ON and ON about it. Last couple weeks he's been talking about how he should be put on salary. Paid for 60 hours of work a week, but doesn't have to be there for that whole time. Now DH is on salary, after SEVEN YEARS of working 60 hours a week. Wayne has been there three, and has NEVER put in a single 60 hour week. So, Owner said no. To me that is understandable. Other employees, family or not, have been there a lot longer before they were salaried. They also proved the could be counted on for a full week's work. Wayne has done neither, thus he was refused. So his wife gets sick. Has to go to the hospital. Shocker given her behavior. Wayne takes off. No call, no show, no note, nada. Also takes off with a couple hundred dollars worth of uniforms that Owner is responsible for. Owner, being a decent human being, wrote a check assuming the days he missed were 'vacation' so that he'd still get a check vs nothing for not showing up. NO call or show since then. He's been down in San Antonio working. Dumped his DD on his stepson... same stepson who can't keep a job, a place, no food in the house, no car, etc. I've met the guy, he is CREEPY. No way I'd trust him with any 13yo girl. I wouldn't trust him to take care of my dog. Anywho, he abandoned his wife in the hospital. Dumped his daughter with a creep. And took off. Last we heard he was in San Antonio working, via a ride from Joe the Stepson. And then he called here. Immediately starts in about how Owner (recall this is my FIL) is this that and the other. He's got MILLIONS in savings... blah blah blah... rolling in the dough... piece of bleep because he's got all this cash and could "set us up on easy street" if he wasn't a selfish blah blah... and so on. I tried to point out, calmly, that owner's son or not DH had to put in a good six years of 60 hour weeks before he was put on salary.... refused to listen enter rant. Tried to point out that I KNEW that Owner had brought home, according to IRS records, less than 30k last year... no dice enter rant. He said "he owns all these tractors, equipment, etc." and I said "That he's selling off to make payroll"... no dice enter rant. I finally lost it... said "You don't know *explicative*! *explicative* You!" and hung up. Now, I'll admit that when I first met DH in school it appeared that his family was doing okay... decent home, not a mansion by ANY means, but okay. Vehicles look nice but they are over 10 years old.... aka well taken care of. A decent Christmas spread. And so on. But, I also learned from knowing them, and for a year LIVING with them that things aren't so peachy. Christmas too MONTHS to pay off. Only reason they can keep their house is due to SS payment. FIL can't retire, NO SAVINGS AT ALL, but the SS covers the house payment at least. For the last three weeks (like MANY weeks last year) there has been NO paycheck for him. And so on. I know these things because (after years as just an In Law) I'm family. I TRIED, without violating a confidence, to let this... ahem...know that but he just would not hear of it. He was convinced that any business owner must be a millionaire and is just a fat, think Monopoly, fat cat that was using and abusing everyone around them. So... yeah... I blew a gasket. I can take abuse... heck look how I was raised. But dangit I'll be darned if I will stand by and watch a guy who works his bum off, HAS since he was 16 years old, to make the payroll and take home NOTHING be badmouthed by a drug abusing, no show moron and not say anything. I had reached my limit. After a bit I told DH what I'd said and he pretty much said "Good, glad I didn't have to talk to him" and after more deep breathing I called FIL and let him know I'd blown a gasket. Told him what Wayne had said, and that I was sorry, but I just couldn't deal with that. That he was too much like my Sis.. blaming everyone else for their choices, never their fault, and I just lost it. Quoted MYSELF, curses and all. He said it was okay, he'd have NEVER said such a thing as he's a peacemaker sort, and that things will work out as they will work out. So... that was our latest drama... owned up to my outburst.. not pawning it off on anyone else or anything. But couldn't quite get over the mad so figured I'd write it out. Appreciate the forum. And, Modly Ones, as always if I've overstepped feel free to delete with no hard feelings.