Big Rant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by debilorrah, Oct 12, 2009.

  1. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Some of you know that my mother is difficult at best, and being her only daughter, she uses me as a sounding board. I haven't had an attack from her in quite a while, so I guess I probably should have seen it coming.

    My son is trying to get a FAFSA grant through DeVry University. My mom has been taking him down there because I work. Well, she went and told them that she raised my son, I have nothing to do with him, etc. SO NOT TRUE. DeVry says they want my tax returns for 07 and 08. Well in 07 I claimed her - I lived with her, paid the bills, paid for the food, etc. So now she has told them I have nothing to do with my son, but they are BOTH claimed on my taxes!!!!! I told her no. My other two kids got FAFSA's without taxes returns, so Brandon can too!

    So this morning I drop my son off at her house to go back to DeVry. Without the taxes. She called me and told me that I am worthless, and I have ruined my son's entire life.

    Um SHE LIED NOT ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Besides, I am not so comfortable with passing copies of my tax returns!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I need to back away from her. I am just not sure how to go about it. She made me cry. Again. I have never understood how a parent can be so hateful.
     
  2. speckledhen

    speckledhen Intentional Solitude Premium Member

    I'm sorry, Deb. I have no solutions, though. Family can sometimes be toxic, sadly. [​IMG]
     
  3. Amyable

    Amyable Chillin' With My Peeps

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    [​IMG] sorry dearie. I can't imagine there is anything you can do to "fix" your mom at this point in life. Space may be the best thing.
     
  4. Germaine_11.20

    Germaine_11.20 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 6, 2009
    Idaho
    [​IMG] I'm sorry. You deserve better than that.
     
  5. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Quote:Toxic is a good word. I am not really looking for a solution - she can't be fixed at this point. I just need to work on ME in order to back away from her altogether. My son was in shock! He texted me right away in total amazement.
     
  6. sred98

    sred98 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jan 18, 2008
    Oklahoma
    It is hard, but sometimes it is for the best. I had a very horrible relationship with my adopted parents and finally cut it off about 7 years ago. There has been some fallout...they basically trashed me to the entire family (which they had been doing for years) and this just proved everything they had been saying was true, because what kind of kid "abandons" their parents?? [​IMG] I have to say, though, it was the best decision for my immediate family (me, DH and kids).

    I've got tons of stories...maybe we can share horror stories sometimes! [​IMG]

    It's a decision you have to make, no one can make it for you. And Ken has to be behind you 100%. It's not easy, but sometimes you have to decide what's best for you. [​IMG]

    Shelly
     
  7. Germaine_11.20

    Germaine_11.20 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 6, 2009
    Idaho
    I am glad your son sees and supports you.
     
  8. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Quote:[​IMG] Ken stays as far away from her as possible. [​IMG]
     
  9. Amyable

    Amyable Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:Sounds like a smart man! I'm glad your son sees the craziness in her, too. They are by your side.
     
  10. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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    Debi..I wouldnt answer the phone when she calls...
    And if she asks you what your problem is..explain to her what you just told us. That your tired of her being so hurtful to you.
    I also dont understand why they need your tax returns..isnt he over 18? Hes an adult..
     

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