I take care of my in-laws. I don't know how much longer I can do this. I have 2 BILs and one is married. Neither one wants anything to do with their parents unless they want money. The SIL has called animal control because my llama was too skinny. He just got shaved and they do look super skinny compared with all the fiber they were carrying around. She has called Adult protective services on me because my MIL complained to her that she didn't eat for days. I cook. Every day. I take her plate to her and she eats on her bed. I can not help it if she don't like what is cooked that night or just don't want to eat it. I had these people (adult services) taking pics of my house, fridge and pantry and giving me the 3rd degree. I don't know if she has the beginning stages of Alzheimers or she is just being bratty. I know this sounds mean. In public she sounds like a child yelling mommy mommy to me. I had one lady come up and say she understands cause her mom is alzheimers. Fil lets her drive and she has been known to drive into on coming traffic. Thank God there has not been an accident. He says he is going to take the keys but never does. She takes his pay and totaly blows it. She bought $50.00 in insulated cups. We don't need that many and now they are sitting on the floor in her room. She will not do laundry, FILs work clothes even, will not cook, clean. Nothing. I do it all plus run the ranch. Yes she has medical problems but she tells her doctor she is up and doing things. She don't . She sits or lays in that bed all day every day unless its fils' payday. She will not even get up to get a plate of dinner. I have to take it to her and collect plates after dinner. I know she has pain. I am very aware of it. But she starts moaning only when she hears someone in another room. She has over dosed on her pain and sleeping meds and I have to deal with it. I can not get any control of her meds until she is found incompetent. Her doctors will not declare other wise based on what she tells them. Her muscles are getting weak because she will not get out of that darn bed. She sits there all day playing facebook games. If she isn't doing that she is laying playing them. If she says something, later she will argue she didn't say it. Then tell people I'm a "witch" (you know what i mean) and I'm lying on her and trying to get people against her and to make her life *insert here*. I hate her dogs/cats. Don't get me wrong, I love animals. I just am not pleased with hers. They do what they want. If they don't want to go out to potty, guess where they go. And guess who has to clean it. I had the carpets ripped up and tile put down because of the animals. DH is not happy and is fixing to have a fit when he comes home. And goodness I haven't told him everything. Her dog has chewed up the living room furniture. Now she wants me to get a new set. Ummmm NO. She is only 61. I know her dad had Alzheimers. But I was told he was in his 70's when they found it. She goes into crying spells saying that she couldn't live with out me. That she'd die because she can't do anything. There are days I go "hide" in the pasture or sit in the coop petting my hens. I just have to get away and that is where I go. She won't get the test done because she says she is fine and don't have it. Fil won't push for it and goodness knows I don't have the power to. FIL just comes home and gets lost in his flying war games. Bil's don't care. They say she is my problems and they will not take care of her. I think I could handle things better if I knew there was a medical problem. Sometimes I think she is just spoiled and lazy. Then I feel bad because I think that. 3 hrs sleep just don't go as far as it used to.