I just need to vent. I take care of my DH . He's an Army veteran, in a wheel chair and he has needs. Activities of daily living, they call them. Help to get to the bathroom, bathing, dressing combing his hair,cooking, cleaning every day, all day. I feel so ashamed and selfish, but I'm tired and I need a break from him. I asked the VA for help, don't qualify for home care, fighting it through DAV, OK, takes time. Ask the kids, please come help me with Dad, just one afternoon.. no too busy with their lives, school and kids. Don't get me wrong, I love him so much, we've been together over 30 years now, it's just the past few he's gotten this bad and I've been able to handle it and take care of him. Just things are building up and really I don't have anyone to turn to. I'm 18 months post stroke and I know that may have something to do with the way I'm feeling right now, I don't know what to do any more. Nothing I do pleases him, It's always wrong,, or not enough . I asked his friends to come and pick him up take him to lunch go fishing do something with him, take him to the local VFW or American Legion get him drunk let him have some fun. I don't even know if that would help. His doctors have put him on antidepressants, but it really doesn't seem to help. Maybe I need some. I just can't get over our daughters, I know that they are busy but it would really help me if they just sat with him for an hour or so, they don't have to do anything else just sit with him and watch TV or play some cards just do something. I just needed this time to vent, I just needed to talk. I apologize if I have offended anyone. Just sometimes you need to talk to yourself.