Again I guess Im too old to understand. I like a man who can provide for me and not one with only a semblance of a spine. I guess if I saw him and related him to myself I might identify with him but I would not run across a beach into my own arms. As for the other thing I think the character is refering to a "desk job". Thats the type of work when you sit in a cubicle answering to one or more bosses. The movie Office Space illustrates it well as does the show The Office. At a desk in his own home he answers to no oneHe isn't confident. THat's why I liked him!