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DH got a new job

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Karrie13, Sep 9, 2010.

  1. Karrie13

    Karrie13 Songster

    May 1, 2009
    Well… my DH just got a new job. He is very excited but I am still unsure about it, though it is a very reputable and solid company. I like to find a good place and stick with it. He on the other hand is always looking for a place that has higher pay. This one I think is also going to come at a higher cost to the kids, me, and him (later on when he realizes what he missed). I understand where he is coming from, we want to get some bills paid off but still… is it worth it?

    He currently is a beer salesman and does work long days but his new job (start September 27th) will be as a truck driver (did this before delivering beer) and he will be away from home a 2-5 days/nights a week. Pay is based on the loaded mile. That leaves me to take care of everything at our hobby farm plus work full time, all the kid appointments, games, school meetings, and dance performances. I am afraid he is going to miss so much, our son is in the 7th grade and playing tackle football (don’t offer it at his school until 7th grade) as a wide receiver. Our daughter is in the 6th grade and this is the last year she will be in the Just For Kix program at her school (only go to 6th there then they move to the High School dance team). This new place is also an hour and twenty minutes away (50 minutes farther than his current job), I guess that isn’t to bad when he is GONE the whole time and not driving back and forth.

    I am having a hard time being excited for him, I will of course support him moving on to this new job. Am I being overly sensitive about this whole thing?
    Last edited: Sep 9, 2010

  2. zippitydooda

    zippitydooda Songster

    Apr 23, 2010
    Ottawa, Ohio
    IMO, you should be supportive for any job he has. He is trying to take care of his family, and you two should be partners. Yes, it will be difficult, yes he will miss things, and yes, you will be lonely. But remember..... this is NOT forever. No job is. If it helps take care of the family, it will be a good thing. I have found that when I worry about things that haven't happened, I'm usually wasting time.

    Step back, enjoy the time you have with him home and tell him how much you love him and will miss him. That will make it better for BOTH of you.

    Good luck!
  3. Spookwriter

    Spookwriter Crowing

    Feb 23, 2010
    It isn't that bad. Really.

    Stay in touch. Unlimited cell phone minutes. Computer with cam.

    Do not let his job define his life.
  4. EweSheep

    EweSheep Flock Mistress

    Jan 12, 2007
    Land of Lincoln
    I agree with this, it is not for long term until the jobs nearby picks back up again. It is just one of those times that we must provide our family in the best way we can.
  5. satay

    satay oz-e-chick

    Sep 2, 2008
    Esk Qld Australia
    Though not quite the same as you but my hubby work 12 hour+ days and then drives 1 1/2 hours each way to work. So he leaves somewhere around 3 am and get home at 8pm or so at night. Why does he do it? The pay we live in a small rural town and for him to get decent pay for what he does he needs to work in the city. He works 5 to 6 days a week too. When we first moved here from the city i was not sure how i would go with doing everything myself but you do get used to it after a while.
  6. TyrannosaurusChix

    TyrannosaurusChix Songster

    Jul 13, 2010
    Savannah, NY
    i think its a decision not to be taken lightly. As long as you guys have talked about it. Does he realise how much its going to cost for him to be out on the road that long? It takes some savvy dealing and experience to make it out on the road for less than $60 a week.

    My husband is gone all week driving truck. i also have to deal with everything at home, although i dont work outside of the home right now, it is still really stressful.
  7. ranchhand

    ranchhand Rest in Peace 1956-2011

    Aug 25, 2008
    Go for it, you can keep it all together better than you think. It won't be easy, but you both CAN do it.

    To put it in perspective.... at least he isn't deployed overseas with the military for a year or more.

    Best of luck to the entire family. These are tough times, but it will work out. .

  8. Karrie13

    Karrie13 Songster

    May 1, 2009
    Thank you everyone for your support and responses. I will/am being supportive of him in this choice because I do love him.

    He has been away before and had said that he NEVER wanted to be away again. To give you all a little info, we were both in the military and met in Alabama after my year stint in Korea. We were married in Alabama and our son was born there. I was in Saudi Arabia when I found out I was pregnant with our first child, he found out over the phone. Then three days before he was set to deploy to Korea we found out we were having another child. During this deployment he missed our son’s first real words, walking, potty training, first birthday, and second birthday. He missed the whole pregnancy with our daughter, multiple ultrasounds because of complications, hearing her heart beat, her birth, and seeing her in the NICU with all those machines hooked up to her. He did get to meet her when she was almost three weeks old, he came home for 2 weeks. Then we were stationed in ND where he worked out in the field 3 on 3 off (where he was gone for the whole time).

    I have had to do this before but I truly am not looking forward to doing this again. However I will still support him.
  9. sfw2

    sfw2 Global Menace

    The current economic climate has a lot of us doing things that we said we'd never do, again. That doesn't make it any easier, though, does it?

    [​IMG] to you, and [​IMG] for supporting your DH while he tries to support his family.
  10. b.hromada

    b.hromada Flock Mistress

    Which ever decision you both decide on, best of luck. I'm sure it will be difficult. And yes, these things don't last forever, although, sometimes it may feel like it does. [​IMG]

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