I have a friend who was been divorced about a year. She and her ex have three children. The oldest is about 12. A boy. He has a younger brother around 6-7 and a younger sister around 3-4. The ex husband has been a real jerk for the past year. All he wants is to punish is ex wife. He couldn't care less about what is actions are doing to his children. The ex gets the kids one night a week and every other weekend. He lives with a friend who will not allow the children to stay overnight in the apartment. So the ex gets to go back to the marital home, which he gave up in the divorce, on his nights to see his kids. So my friend is forced to leave what is legally her home. She has to lock everything she values up in her bedroom otherwise her ex goes through things. Many times the ex doesn't even want to see his kids on his scheduled days. He is too busy having fun with his new girlfriends. But he often wants them on the days that aren't scheduled. Basically anything to make my friend's life miserable. She is getting to the end of her rope. She sees what her ex's childish and selfish attitude is doing to the kids. All the lies such as I can't buy Christmas presents for you because Mommy takes all my money (not that he always pays child support) , I go skiing every week but can't afford to take you (to his oldest son who got a snowboard from his mother for Christmas) and many many others. The kids are emotionally devastated and confused. But the courts won't help. My friend was told by the mediator that nothing can be done until the ex realizes his actions are hurting the kids. When will that be? When the kids have grand kids of their own? Anyone have any ideas or suggestions on what she can do? She has no money for a lawyer. She is willing to do counseling but her ex refuses and he has also convinced the oldest boy that he doesn't have to go. All she wants his her ex out of the house and for her kids to grow up without all the drama.