My husband and I are teaching our daughter to treat people like she wants to be treated. This includes, but is not limited to: 1. Saying she's sorry in a humble tone 2. Using good manners 3. Not using words like "shut up" or "stupid" or "I hate . . ." 4. Being honest and respectful to everyone 5. Taking turns and being patient 6. Not being wasteful 7. Speaking the truth in love - - - - just because it's true doesn't mean you have to tell the world the "ugly" truth She's willing to listen to us, but is frustrated that she seems to have parents with higher standards than other parents. I agree with her that it's hard when someone says something vile to her that it's not right, but that doesn't give her a reason to take revenge. It seems to me that people are getting ruder and meaner both in person and on message boards. On Facebook there's a way to say "DISLIKE" when someone posts to their status. Excuse me?? Why should anyone feel compelled to say "DISLIKE" when someone posts they've just finished their homework or going to the grocery store? If you don't like it, don't say anything! I'm active on several message boards and cannot believe how people derail threads with "I can't believe you are so stupid . . ." and "I hate . . . ." Would you like it if someone posted that about you? If not, don't post it yourself. And edit what you say that's TRUE. It might be TRUE that someone made a stupid mistake or their dog is ugly, but is it NICE to rub their nose in it? No. A final note: I've noticed more and more that if my values or opinions are stricter than other people's, they think I'm an idiot and if they are looser than others that I'm a moron. Many people think they are the standard of values and opinions. These polarizing positions make for ugly conversations.