Well I didn't have an engagement party nor have I ever been to one. Just recently I and my family received an invitation to my cousins engagement party. I knew it was coming as she posted on Facebook that "the invitations were done and should be sent out soon". Yes the engagement was "announced" on FB as well. The wedding is not to be for another 2 or 3 years. Her older sisters did not have an engagement party, but being the wedding is so far away there will be a party so she can feel special now (my mother who is my cousin's godmother thought this would be nice). Included in the invitation was a card for a gift registry to both Bed, Bath & Beyond and Target. This is what gets me. She is currently living with her parents and her fiance is living with his parents. Where would they put presents? What if they don't get married? Emily Post says an engagement party is to announce to family and friends of the engagement. (This has already been done on Facebook). It is not a wedding shower. Presents may be given by close family, godparents, but is not to be expected. So I have not RSVP'ed yet. What are your thoughts? What would you do? Gift? No Gift? (BTW DH says we should give her an Emily Post Etiquette Book).