OK Explain the etiquette for this situation for me? Neighborhood nearby has a community pool. You can only go if you live there or as a guest of some one who does. Fair enough, but they have serious limits to how many guests you can bring. So, one of my DDs friends invites her to a "pool party". Then I hear via the grapevine that this is a big community party and it costs $5 to get in. I don't know if it is for guests or residents but I am already annoyed to have her invited to something without it being clear who is paying for what. Then I send her with extra cash for food. She comes home telling me she paid $5 for the event, $2 guest fee and then paid #2.50 for her food. Seriously. If I invite a child to an event, I assume that I will pay for her attendance to an event and her food. I mean, if you're taking the kid to a week long vacation you may set up parameters, but a pool party?? Am I wrong?