Let your cat decide what to do and when to meet him. Don't force the issue!
Mary
^^^^This! Definitely this.^^^^
I had to have stitches when I was a kid from a cat that didn't want to meet a dog. No I wasn't trying to make them meet. Quite the opposite.
A lady came to the door and when my mom answered it her small dog ran in. My mom screamed "Get the cat!". I was closest. I got the cat, the cat got me and then I needed 15 stitches in the face.