I don't think I've ever 'vented' on this forum before, but if I could, I'd like to do so now. Perhaps someone here could offer advise, suggestions, a drink, etc...
About two years ago my DH and I had finally had enought of the inner city life and the lousy school system and noisey neighbors. So we decided to do what we have always wanted to do and move out to a bit more country.
For a year prior to our move, we had dealt with a dear freind of ours dying of cancer. My husband was with him everyday. Everyday. We watched him go from a man that filled your doorway and looked like John Wayne to someone in a refugee camp. This man had a wife with an alcohol problem. While trying to kept our freind comforable, we were also dealing with his wife that was an awful, mean drunk. Many a time she appeared on our doorstep drunk and not always completely clothed. Doing anything, and yes I mean anything for another drink. A drink of Vanilla extract, Listerine, etc. Our friend died in June of 06 and yet, the drama w/the wife continued. (She had and to the best of my knowledge still has no interest in quitting the drink.) When I realized the wedge it was putting between DH and I, I ended the whole scene. A couple of weeks later, she ended up trying to kill herself in a housefire. This too helped us decide it was time to leave.
Dec of 06 we bought a great house in a good area with an excellent school system. Very happy, yes we are. Before we signed our lives away, I had figured out that we could afford double mortgages for about 6 mos. 9 if we had to. I had a realtor tell me the old house would be sold within 3-6 mos. DH and I were willing to do the double mortgages since we found the 'perfect' house, had pets and lots of cars and stuff. Easier than moving into an apt and then into a house. (we moved everything just the two of us.)
After my DH went thru 2 jobs in 9 mos, with huge pay cuts of course and a month of no job and our oldest going off to college we had someone that wanted to buy the house....rent for 6 mos and then buy. Ok, so we end up renting it at 1/2 of what it costs us to keep the house-mortgage, ins, txs, etc.
I find out today that there is no way at all that these people can get financed to buy. None.
Over the past 15 mos, we have incurred debt, fallen behind on everything, stressed out, fought, you name it. All for nothing. We can't sell the house to save our lives and now it must go to foreclosure. Our credit is shot for years now.
I am upset, disappointed and feel like an idiot.
But I will say that thru all of this, every day I have realized that my life could be so much worse and I am thankful that my family is together and healthy. And that I have my chickens. They have made me laugh on the crappiest of days.
Ok. Now I am done!
About two years ago my DH and I had finally had enought of the inner city life and the lousy school system and noisey neighbors. So we decided to do what we have always wanted to do and move out to a bit more country.
For a year prior to our move, we had dealt with a dear freind of ours dying of cancer. My husband was with him everyday. Everyday. We watched him go from a man that filled your doorway and looked like John Wayne to someone in a refugee camp. This man had a wife with an alcohol problem. While trying to kept our freind comforable, we were also dealing with his wife that was an awful, mean drunk. Many a time she appeared on our doorstep drunk and not always completely clothed. Doing anything, and yes I mean anything for another drink. A drink of Vanilla extract, Listerine, etc. Our friend died in June of 06 and yet, the drama w/the wife continued. (She had and to the best of my knowledge still has no interest in quitting the drink.) When I realized the wedge it was putting between DH and I, I ended the whole scene. A couple of weeks later, she ended up trying to kill herself in a housefire. This too helped us decide it was time to leave.
Dec of 06 we bought a great house in a good area with an excellent school system. Very happy, yes we are. Before we signed our lives away, I had figured out that we could afford double mortgages for about 6 mos. 9 if we had to. I had a realtor tell me the old house would be sold within 3-6 mos. DH and I were willing to do the double mortgages since we found the 'perfect' house, had pets and lots of cars and stuff. Easier than moving into an apt and then into a house. (we moved everything just the two of us.)
After my DH went thru 2 jobs in 9 mos, with huge pay cuts of course and a month of no job and our oldest going off to college we had someone that wanted to buy the house....rent for 6 mos and then buy. Ok, so we end up renting it at 1/2 of what it costs us to keep the house-mortgage, ins, txs, etc.
I find out today that there is no way at all that these people can get financed to buy. None.
Over the past 15 mos, we have incurred debt, fallen behind on everything, stressed out, fought, you name it. All for nothing. We can't sell the house to save our lives and now it must go to foreclosure. Our credit is shot for years now.
I am upset, disappointed and feel like an idiot.
But I will say that thru all of this, every day I have realized that my life could be so much worse and I am thankful that my family is together and healthy. And that I have my chickens. They have made me laugh on the crappiest of days.
Ok. Now I am done!
