friendship advice...help needed....

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  1. Dar

    Dar Overrun With Chickens

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    here goes...

    a friend of mine ...have known her for about 8 yrs.. she bends over backwards to help me when i need a hand and i do the same for her.

    babysitting
    lending of vehicles
    references for work
    she signed my passport...
    shoulder to cry on
    you get the point

    well about a week ago she called and asked if i know where she could borrow $500
    she is short for her rent

    we have an agreement we never borrow money cause it ruins friendships

    she is always spending her money foolishly she spend $150 on a tattoo when she was already short for rent that kind of thing.

    I have the money to loan her but i can afford not to get it back, if i dont get it back it could mean me canceling my vacation in january... what would you do?
     
  2. Katy

    Katy Flock Mistress

    Quote:There it is....some life lessons are hard to learn.
     
  3. texasgal

    texasgal Brood with an Attitude

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    Yeah, I agree.

    "I love you, but I can't enable you to spend foolishly"

    hard lesson.
     
  4. vnploveschickens

    vnploveschickens Chillin' With My Peeps

    I would not lend money to a friend. From personal experience, it puts a real strain on the relationship, whether it gets paid back or not.

    If you decide to, put it in writing, signed by both parties. Make reasonable payment terms with a definate due date. Make it like a business loan. At least if something goes wrong, you'll have proof to take to small claims court.

    Good luck.
     
  5. Hoosiermomma

    Hoosiermomma Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I agree with previous posts. I wouldn't lend the money either. Your friend needs to get her priorities straightened out when it comes to where her money goes. [​IMG]
     
  6. Rillion

    Rillion Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Rent is an important thing. I would loan it to her, but make some kind of arrangement that would make it really difficult for her to not pay it off quickly. Charge interest. Make it clear to her that you can't go long without it being paid back. Let her know that the friendship is at stake if she doesn't do so. If she cares about you at all, she'll listen and pay you back promptly. If she doesn't, she wasn't that good of a friend in the first place.
     
  7. Omran

    Omran Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I am not trying to be mean, but I would say I am really sorry, things are tough with everyone at the present time, I know she will understand.
     
  8. Whirlwind

    Whirlwind Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I never loan money with the expectation of getting it back. Loan it only if you can afford not to be repaid. Friendship is worth more than money. If it will make hard feelings if she does not pay you back I would not loan it to her.
     
  9. faykokoWV

    faykokoWV Mrs Fancy Plants

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    Quote:I agree.

    Also, it seems that the fastest way to loose a friend it so lend them money. Maybe say something to her like "" I used to come up short on stuff until I started budgeting. It really helped me. Even though I can't lend you the money, I'd be glad to sit down with you and show you how to create a budget so you can get caught up on things."
     
  10. Dar

    Dar Overrun With Chickens

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    Quote:thats what i told her last week but she knows we are planning a big vacation in januray, but she still asked again tonight
     

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