A little bit of background - I have always wanted to have two kids and adopt two - preferably siblings. Well, we had three (second pregnancy was identical twins), and started our foster/adoption licensing process in Oct/Nov 2008 (when I first inquired). Now, more than 1.5 years into the process, we have been homestudied for nearly a year, but haven't made any progress in actually finding any children. We have had three foster placements - the last of which was a complete debaucle b/c DSS didn't disclose all of the pertinent information b/c they needed someone to take the children for the weekend and were afraid that we would not take them if we knew everything (one had BDP, both had ADHD, they didn't give us their meds, or disclose a potential for sexual aggression!) - and have inquired about more than 150 kids, with no luck. Our children are 6, almost 4 and almost 4. We want to adopt 1-3 kids 10 and younger. BUT everyone either won't disrupt the birth order (so, all potential adoptive kids would need to be younger than 3 - which we're not likely to find), or they want the children to be the youngest (again, younger than 3) or only child in the home (simply not possible). I keep reading that there are 500,000 kids in foster care - many of whom have a permanency plan of adoption - but apparently, our family isn't good enough for any of them . I realize that many kids in foster care have specialized needs...and I thought we were equipped to handle many of them (basically, all we have ruled out are children who are extremely sexually overt, children who set fires and children who abuse kids or animals). But it seems that social workers only want their children to go to homes where they will be the sole focus of the parents' attention. That's all well and good, but...it rules us out as parents I've decided that I will renew our homestudy for one more year, but won't do it again next year (which is when our kids would have to have TB tests and whatnot - I can't justify putting them through all that in promise of a sibling/siblings that won't materialize). So, on one hand, I'm relieved b/c I've put an "end date" on the process...and on the other hand, I'm really, really sad, b/c I have this sinking feeling that we won't find our child/ren before that date arrives Anyway, just wanted to vent. Feeling a bit discouraged after receiving yet another "you are not a good match for these children" response.