Background- I am 23 and i have one child of my own who is 2 1/2 a girl. My BF,M, is 33 and has three kids 10 a boy, 6 and 1 1/2 both girls. M and i have a past, about 5yrs ago him and his wife seperated, and we dated on and off for about a yr. He kept going back and forth between her and i and i eventually told him we were over till he could decide. He went back with her and I was with my babies father, but i could never get him out of my head. my babies father and i split up. A couple of weeks after the split i heard M and his wife were getting divorced, a friend for me found out the facts, and here we are almost together a yr now. The help i need- when we dated in the past i never met his kids bc he was so back and forth. Now we have tried to convert to one happy family, and i knew everything wasn't going to fall perfect but i feel like i am beating my head against a wall. The 10yr old has no respect, for anyone. He talks back, screams at his dad and i, if u tell him to pick up his toys or something and he doesn't want to do it he just wont. I have had many talks with M about his behavior and he just always says "i will talk to him" obvisouly its NOT working. I have NEVER seen kids act the way they do. M just ignores them when they have an attitude and goes on. i CAN'T stand it. The boy yells at me and tells me i am a tadle tale, when his dad tells him to do something and he doesn't, and his dad spaces out like always, i ask M "didn't u tell him to do something?" When the boy back talks his dad, M uaully tells him to quit running is mouth and sometimes he stops. But when i tell him to quit he just keeps going right back. i tell him i am not arguing with him and i quit talking and he keeps right on going. Sometimes M will step in but most of the time he is sleeping or out doing some yard work. WHAT DO I DO?????